Vishal Sam is a Bombay Boy of 34 years who’s been in the matrimony process for so long that it’s the only relationship he feels committed to. In fact, he’s enjoying the process too much to stop it. After spending half his salary at coffee shops, the only way he has to recover the money, is to write about his experiences.

Easy-going single Bombay Boy who likes meeting people, studying human behaviour, photography and having chocolate milkshake.

Seeing eye to eye, and touch.

Lack of communication

The Fountainhead

Anything is fine. As long as it's fun.

Home food. Daal-bhaat.

 
 

Stories by Vishal Sampat

Who pays the bill on a dinner date? | Bonobology

The delicate dilemma of a dinner date

Vishal Sampat
Vishal Sampat
Posted on : 13 Feb 2017

Should he pay, let her pick up the tab, or offer to go Dutch?

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Comments: 1
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Wrong to love your friends as much as your girlfriend or boyfriend?

Vishal Sampat
Vishal Sampat
Posted on : 13 Jun 2016

Read Vishal Sampat's account of a date that goes wrong for the right reason

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Comments: 3

 

Discussions by Vishal Sampat

Who should take the tab on the first date? And what does it mean?

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Activity by Vishal Sampat

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Vishal Sampat Commented

04 Mar 2017

Comment : Thanks, @SaumyaTewari - are you on Tinder?

What do you intend to get out of this discussion page? What can this page do to help you better? What do you wish this page could help you with?


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Vishal Sampat Commented

04 Mar 2017

Comment : Haha...committed friends are so jealous! :)

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Vishal Sampat Commented

02 Mar 2017

Comment : Nobody brought me to the Singles Club. I grew into it. And while i have been in and out of it, i know that Lifetime Membership to the Club will expire soon....because i have heard about another club called the Married Club. And i am told that it's important to be a member of that club to progress to other clubs like Own Family Club, Old-Age Club, Don't-Die-Alone Club, etc.

So the question should be - what makes me want to stay in the Single Club? It's just to look for someone i want to enter other clubs with.

I hope this discussion page brings together singles on one page. And i welcome ladies to get in touch. Let's get out of here! :) :D

What do you intend to get out of this discussion page? What can this page do to help you better? What do you wish this page could help you with?


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Vishal Sampat Commented

02 Mar 2017

Comment : Oh yes, i agree. Men do have mood swings. But it may not be restricted to a relationship. It could be a morning grump, or fatigue or just sheer boredom. The relationship is probably just a context like everything else and should neutralize extreme mood swings rather than create one.

I have had mood swings at work and i take them in my stride. It's part of personality and maybe that's how i am. I don't think it has anything to do with relationships. In fact i would like my partner and the relationship to be the balance on which i can swing my mood - for my good.

In a relationship men sometimes will behave weirdly. They'll be all mushy one day and suddenly turn sour the next day; not talk for days together when they want; or disappear completely and surface later as if nothing has happened. Mood swings at their worst.


Vishal Sampat

Vishal Sampat Commented

14 Feb 2017

Comment : Kundali-matching is a decision-making tool.

It was highly relevant in earlier days of child marriage when parents didn't know how their children would turn out to be.

Gradually as marriageable age increased, people get a fair idea about their own personality and expectations from a life partner.

We've reached a stage now that people getting married are the oldest ever and with so many self-discovery tools available, there is a reducing dependence on Kundali-matching.

However, like any tool, it has its own merits and demerits. Just because one cannot understand it or apply it, doesn't mean it loses its worth. A tool is useful to the one who knows how to use it. Useless to others. And ofcourse, its worth is influenced by how responsible the interpreters of Kundalis are. i.e. the learned Pandits, Maharajs, etc.

I believe it has more merits and demerits and recommend using it as a 'gross negative check' - to flag off any major threats to a relationship or family. To each unto his own.



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