She is a homemaker who has willingly chosen family commitments over a full-time career. She loves reading, writing, voicing her opinion, cooking and generally lazing around. She freelances as a writer for blogs and believes in the power of words to change the world.

I am a socially responsible, jovial, dynamic, committed individual, married for eighteen years, mother and friend to my 14 year old daughter.

Trust and mutual respect

Lack of respect

Arranged Marriage, by Chitra Bannerjee Divakaruni, and Afterwards, by Jaishree Mishra, most mysteries of Agatha Christie

Movies, dance recitals

Indian tandoori

 
 

Stories by Barnali Roy

Badrinath ki Dulhania - A Bollywood love story with a twist?| Bonobology.com

Hinterland ki dulhaniya

Barnali Roy
Barnali Roy
Posted on : 25 Mar 2017

While still a mainstream commercial film, Badrinath ki Dulhaniya delivers an upbeat message about changing gender roles

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Personal Space in Marriage | Bonobology

Give me space!

Barnali Roy
Barnali Roy
Posted on : 07 Mar 2017

Personal space within a relationship is a complex combination of freedom and choice

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Adjusting To Marriage & To Each Other Has Its Own Rewards | Bonobology

Adapting to Each Other: Some Do It Right

Barnali Roy
Barnali Roy
Posted on : 23 Aug 2016

One-upmanship between couples often leaves their lives without charm. Adjusting and adapting to each other's needs has own rewards.

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Blogs published by Barnali Roy

A Homemaker's Job

A housewife's job, as they say, is never done. It goes on 24/7, 365 days a year.


While corporate and other jobs have hol ...

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Are Meek Wives Really Submissive?

The general notion about women in the earlier days was that they should be seen and not heard. Barring a Draupadi or a Noor Jehan, wives w ...

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Discussions by Barnali Roy

What is your pet peeve about your wife/girlfriend?

Hey guys, there must be certain things that annoy you or put you off about your wife or girlfriend. Share your grouse with us. It could be somethin ... Read More


Time to smell the coffee boys?

Girls are dead serious about theircareer goals, guys. It's high time boyfriends and husbands understand this fact and learn to support the ... Read More


Time and experience taught me to give space in my married relationship. What about you?

I would like to know your views about giving space to each other in a marriage. Do you agree that too much involvement and closeness translate into st ... Read More



Activity by Barnali Roy

Barnali Roy

Barnali Roy Commented

26 May 2017

Comment :

This is a tricky area. Maybe a little direct talk with your mother in law can ease problems a bit. Most of the time it is lack of communication and empathy that lead to full blown fights. Of course indirect instigation is more difficult to deal with. Be careful not to directly criticize or blame her in front of your husband. Be loving, understanding, but make it clear to him that you don't like her constant interference. And ensure that he doesn't report everything to her.

His mother twists him around, plays the health card or that she loves me, but she is always trying to pull me down, but not overtly! She is smart about it, never directly circizes me but somehow signals him on anything I have messed up. Help! 

 


Barnali Roy

Barnali Roy Commented

22 May 2017

Comment :

Of course! Abuse means lack of respect for the other. And no relationship can survive absence of respect.

Draw the line clearly of what you will or will not tolerate. Don't feel guilty or responsible for provoking such behaviour. And if it gets unbearable give an ultimatum.


Barnali Roy

Barnali Roy Commented

19 May 2017

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It is better that both partners are open with each other regarding money matters. If you are not comfortable sharing details, then communicate that too. But don't keep things hidden from  a your partner. State expectations and needs clearly and define your limits.


Barnali Roy

Barnali Roy Commented

19 May 2017

Comment :

No. In a healthy marital relationship it is not justified..but if the relationship is dysfunctional or on the verge of collapse, then infidelity is a sort of reaction against it. Sometimes it is also a means of getting back at your partner , or of drawing attention to yourself.


Barnali Roy

Barnali Roy Commented

02 May 2017

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Just be cool about it and maintain a little distance. Get yourself a couple of girl friends, and pretend to be very close with them. She will soon be wondering what has happened to you. If she changes her opinion well and good. If she remains indifferent, well, then its time for you to move on.

Ppl, i need your suggestion of how to eject yourself out from the frienddzoned status and come back in the race to impress the crush. . . i know it is difficult, but i am very sure that there must be many out there, who had been there, and done it!!!



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