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On again and off again Relationship? | Bonobology

A relationship beyond breakups

Neetole Mitra
Neetole Mitra
Posted on : 02 Feb 2017

The nature of relationships is changing to one that has to do with freedom of choice

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Never Too Late For A Travel Adventure Together | Bonobology

Never too late for a travel adventure together!

Neetole Mitra
Neetole Mitra
Posted on : 27 Sep 2016

Says a couple that's in their 60s, and still made the trip of a lifetime to Mansarovar

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Love Yourself First: A Confession I Have To Make | Bonobology

I have a confession to make!

Neetole Mitra
Neetole Mitra
Posted on : 31 Aug 2016

You cannot love another individual wholeheartedly till you love yourself enough, admits this writer in her story

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Is Monogamy really logical?

Don't we change all through out life? Every 3-4 years we can't believe what we were 3 years back. We are smarter. Our dreams have changed. etc. If suc ... Read More



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20 Oct 2016

Comment : It's worked because monogamy often becomes an alibi for people to hide in the comfort of their homes and fall back into a routine. Sex is one of our biggest motivations. Isn't that what Sigmund Freud said? So in a world where sex is taboo, most of us are too reluctant, guilty or tied down to aspire more. We make peace. I don't know. Just a crazy theory I guess.

Don't we change all through out life? Every 3-4 years we can't believe what we were 3 years back. We are smarter. Our dreams have changed. etc. If such is life and such is the way in which we change constantly throughout life, is monogamy - the act of holding on to one partner - really logical?

You were attracted to a person during a point in your life. You spent a lot of time together. You two know everything about each other and you see that you both are headed down different paths. In such a situation, does it make sense to continue with the old relationship or is it wiser to seek out a new partner who you will relate to better? Who will help you grow?


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Neetole Mitra Commented

20 Oct 2016

Comment : That's a very liberal answer. Something I'd personally advocate for. But imagine for a second you really are in that situation. Would it really be so easy to make such a practical decision. Wouldn't you all of a sudden feel tremendously selfish - that the person you claimed to have loved all this while can be discarded so easily. What's the value left to relationships then? What's the value of companionship and partnership? Could you yourself be discarded just as easily? I would lose faith in love for good, if this is how it turns out to be, I guess

Don't we change all through out life? Every 3-4 years we can't believe what we were 3 years back. We are smarter. Our dreams have changed. etc. If such is life and such is the way in which we change constantly throughout life, is monogamy - the act of holding on to one partner - really logical?

You were attracted to a person during a point in your life. You spent a lot of time together. You two know everything about each other and you see that you both are headed down different paths. In such a situation, does it make sense to continue with the old relationship or is it wiser to seek out a new partner who you will relate to better? Who will help you grow?


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Neetole Mitra Commented

20 Oct 2016

Comment : I know! Marriage is all about 'trying'. Much like that job. Your survival, promotion everything depends on how much you try. Just thought relationships would be worth more than efforts. What happened to living in the moment? butterflies in the stomach and going with the flow?

Don't we change all through out life? Every 3-4 years we can't believe what we were 3 years back. We are smarter. Our dreams have changed. etc. If such is life and such is the way in which we change constantly throughout life, is monogamy - the act of holding on to one partner - really logical?

You were attracted to a person during a point in your life. You spent a lot of time together. You two know everything about each other and you see that you both are headed down different paths. In such a situation, does it make sense to continue with the old relationship or is it wiser to seek out a new partner who you will relate to better? Who will help you grow?


Neetole Mitra

Neetole Mitra Commented

20 Oct 2016

Comment : Indeed! Suppressing anything is problematic. And why should anyone suppress? I mean one life. One single shot at making the most of it. Isn't it? But yes, what does one do? Is it really that simple? You act on a 'desire' end up losing all that you were a part of. Ending a relationship is also losing a part of yourself you'll never get back. Wow. Complicated! Innit?

Don't we change all through out life? Every 3-4 years we can't believe what we were 3 years back. We are smarter. Our dreams have changed. etc. If such is life and such is the way in which we change constantly throughout life, is monogamy - the act of holding on to one partner - really logical?

You were attracted to a person during a point in your life. You spent a lot of time together. You two know everything about each other and you see that you both are headed down different paths. In such a situation, does it make sense to continue with the old relationship or is it wiser to seek out a new partner who you will relate to better? Who will help you grow?


Neetole Mitra

Neetole Mitra Commented

20 Oct 2016

Comment : It's not so much sexual as it is intellectual. Of course our sexuality stems from the mind.

Don't we change all through out life? Every 3-4 years we can't believe what we were 3 years back. We are smarter. Our dreams have changed. etc. If such is life and such is the way in which we change constantly throughout life, is monogamy - the act of holding on to one partner - really logical?

You were attracted to a person during a point in your life. You spent a lot of time together. You two know everything about each other and you see that you both are headed down different paths. In such a situation, does it make sense to continue with the old relationship or is it wiser to seek out a new partner who you will relate to better? Who will help you grow?



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