Joyeeta Talukdar is ' Senior Research Assistant at KKL in GBP,IIT- Guwahati' and is presently working on cancer stem cell research. Apart from writing, this trained classical dancer enjoys dancing, travelling, trekking and gardening.

I believe in "Come as u r"

Trust.

Lies.

The Green Darkness

Music concerts,travelling, Dancing

Anything eatable made pura "Dil se"

 
 

Stories by Joyeeta Talukdar

I Did Not Believe In Marriage But I Fell In Love With My Husband | Bonobology.Com

I had medical issues after we got engaged, but my husband stood by me

Joyeeta Talukdar
Joyeeta Talukdar
Posted on : 29 May 2017

She had medical issues which made conceiving a child difficult, but he stood by her throughout

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उसे आघात पहुंचा था और वह सेक्स से डरता था, लेकिन उसने ठीक होने में उसकी सहायता की

Joyeeta Talukdar
Joyeeta Talukdar
Posted on : 05 Apr 2017

वर्षों पूर्व की एक घटना के बाद उसे आघात लगा था, वह अपनी पत्नी के साथ शारीरिक संबंध नहीं बना पा रहा था, फिर उसकी पत्नी ने उसके आसपास की दीवार...

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How my wife helped me overcome my Sexual Abuse Trauma | Bonobology

He was traumatised and afraid of sex, but she helped him heal

Joyeeta Talukdar
Joyeeta Talukdar
Posted on : 06 Dec 2016

Left traumatised after an incident years ago, he hadn’t been able to sleep with his wife, until she broke down his walls

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He Fought His Family, To Help Me In Dealing With Endometriosis | Bonobology

He fought his family, to help me fight my demons

Joyeeta Talukdar
Joyeeta Talukdar
Posted on : 07 Oct 2016

His family urged him to go for a second marriage when she couldn’t conceive. But her husband became her strength helping her battle both end...

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Surviving A Breakup With My Wife

How my wife helped me heal from past heartbreak

Joyeeta Talukdar
Joyeeta Talukdar
Posted on : 08 Sep 2016

Heartbreak is known to have taken several to the brink. Here's a story of how counselling and finding strength in a marriage can turn lives ...

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Blogs published by Joyeeta Talukdar

I Am Ammuru

It’s neither Basonti Pujo nor Durga Puja but still I felt like writing this blog. Right now I am in a small village at Seemandhra. Everything is ju ...

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JoyeetaTalukdar 27 Mar 2017
 
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A Tale Of Hunter And Gatherer

In the beginning let me introduce you to the two supreme characters of this story –The male actor-Hunter and the female actor- Gatherer.

This ...

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JoyeetaTalukdar 03 Apr 2017
 
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Discussions by Joyeeta Talukdar

Has the sexual life in today's fast growing world somewhere become more mechanical than the emotional bond between the partners?

It has always neen evidenced in many cases of unhappy couples that the lack of sexual bonding between the couples are somewhere one of the causes o ... Read More


Does Hormonal changes in middle-aged women effect their personal relationships?

Middle-aged women fight a lot with their changing hormonal imbalances basically' menopause" . During this period they are confined to themselves and a ... Read More


Does love seem missing in marriages after few years of it?

The spark, the wait and the love seem to be getting vanished after few years of marriage. Whether it's getting divided between the increasing members ... Read More


Can we accuse digital-world to be one of the causes of increased divorce cases in modern society??

With all the positivism of the digital world which helps us to acquire knowledge about anything anywhere within seconds of 'SEARCH', can this same dig ... Read More


Why are partners shy of speaking about the sexual abuse?

Sex is an important aspect but when it comes to sexual abuse, the victim partner prefers to conceal about the fact.This is seen in most cases until & ... Read More



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Joyeeta Talukdar

Joyeeta Talukdar Commented

03 Jun 2017

Comment :

Love is hard to depict because it's all about the emotional ups and downs of life that builds together that unbreakable bond between the two. So better the team work more is the capability of sustaining through this relationship between two unknown different personalities.There are marriages  without any emotional attachment  which are like a symbiotic mechanical relationship where one is reliable on other ,yet are independent too. Besides that to get a marriage going one creeps through the learning phases slowly. It's like a team work where one has to support and understand other and there by sustain through various phases of life.

We have either love marriages or arranged marriages. Irrespective of how you got married, do you think in absence of love a marriage can not be sustained for long? Conversely, do all couples who remain married and stay together through ups and downs of life are having at least some love or affection for each other?


Joyeeta Talukdar

Joyeeta Talukdar Commented

03 Jun 2017

Comment :

YES, indeed this induced change in society has  opened doors of talking more freely about their various aspects of life between men and women. But the moment they enter into the real world it seems something is missing in between them. They don't have anything to speak about in reality. Somewhere the idea of staying behind this virtual world and talking is dominating the social gathering and the real openness among the opposites. But, then they atleast have one way or other to speak up their mind be it through the virtual world. However the security of relationships is at stake as the trust factor is questioned somewhere  in the real world when one is more indulged into maintaining fictional relationships and messing up the real life ones. Balance is important!!!!!

How do you look at this newly acquired freedom, convenience and opportunity by people for expressing themselves, in one to one communications ? Is this impact on moral fabric or induced change in society, in the right direction ?


Joyeeta Talukdar

Joyeeta Talukdar Commented

24 May 2017

Comment :

Thanks Shail for the answer.  You need not be sorry, the comment of yours is very true in every sense.  Life has become so technice that even people have started using technology and social sites for having sexual satisfaction too.  It's more porne too materialism now 

It has always neen evidenced in many cases of unhappy couples that the lack of sexual bonding between the couples are somewhere one of the causes of their break-ups. In history sexual life was given as much importance as the emotional life. But in today's technological world when everything we want is just a hand away and all we are almost not left with is tranquility, is the beautiful art of sexualism somewhere missing it's essence and beauty?  Has it become somewhat of a more mechanical than the actual intimacy which  holded great esthatics in the ancient age and was given proper norturing and education?

 


Joyeeta Talukdar

Joyeeta Talukdar Commented

24 May 2017

Comment :

The question indeed is a one to think about. Long silences has both it's bad effects and goods. Goods has already been described by you beautifully but the bad effects might be loss of interest among the partners. Nowadays, people are so wooluped in the technologcal world that they think it's better to talk over social sites than one on one converstations. There are many a time I have noticed couples sitting in silence alone when they are together but then when they are away they talk a loads over social sites. Is it because the charm of conversation is somwhere dying amidst this technological haste. Might be one of the causes. Again there might be  causes like the tastes aren't jelling well and things aren't working out properly . In that case the couple should try to break the ice between them either by having one on one converstations in between themselves even if it results to quarrels and if they think this isn't working out then they should porbably seek for a counselor who can help them to understand what is the cause of silence among them that has brought emptiness in their relationship.

When I was younger and married I often saw married couples in malls or parks, sitting together but in complete silence.To me that silence stood for boredom and disinterest but now after having been married I realise that silence is not always that.A good silence between a couple can mean satisfaction and security.Silence may not necessarily mean that theres nothing left to talk but that the relationship has moved beyond conversation.But what if somebody is stuck in a bad silence, where there actually is nothing to talk about.How does one survive emptiness then?


Joyeeta Talukdar

Joyeeta Talukdar Commented

24 May 2017

Comment :

Thank you for the reply. Yes, indeed although the want of sex has increased yet it is the least spoken of and the beauty of it is missing somewhere in this fast growing technical world where the artificial beuatification is present but the escasity of it is missing.

It has always neen evidenced in many cases of unhappy couples that the lack of sexual bonding between the couples are somewhere one of the causes of their break-ups. In history sexual life was given as much importance as the emotional life. But in today's technological world when everything we want is just a hand away and all we are almost not left with is tranquility, is the beautiful art of sexualism somewhere missing it's essence and beauty?  Has it become somewhat of a more mechanical than the actual intimacy which  holded great esthatics in the ancient age and was given proper norturing and education?

 



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