Saumya Tewari is a PhD student at TISS, Mumbai, specialising in public policy and is an independent social research consultant and writer.  To take a break from serious public policy and academic writing, she hopes to write a novel soon.

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Stories by Saumya Tewari

What is the current trend on Matrimonial sites |

What men and women look for when browsing online matrimony sites

Saumya Tewari
Saumya Tewari
Posted on : 23 Mar 2017

Indians prefer matrimony portals to dating sites when they marry and caste and community still important in matrimony, says the Head of Mark...

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Not looking for a relationship | Bonobology

I'm not looking for a relationship

Saumya Tewari
Saumya Tewari
Posted on : 28 Feb 2017

They began to be intimate, but then he said…

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Reasons why Married Men get Irritated | Bonobology

The top 5 irritants in a married man's world

Saumya Tewari
Saumya Tewari
Posted on : 06 Jan 2017

What are the five top reasons married men get irritated?

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Reasons why Urban Indian Couples fight | Bonobology

10 reasons why Indian couples fight

Saumya Tewari
Saumya Tewari
Posted on : 16 Dec 2016

What are the most common reasons why urban couples in India fight?

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Cultural differences affecting your marriage? | Bonobology

Are differences of culture and upbringing causing discord in your marriage?

Saumya Tewari
Saumya Tewari
Posted on : 25 Nov 2016

Cultural differences between couples seem cute during courtship. These same differences become the bone of contention after marriage. Is it ...

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Discussions by Saumya Tewari

Online Matrimony vs Online Dating: Which one would you prefer and why?

Turns out that the world of online matrimony is not very different from the real matrimony market- where the important variables are caste, co ... Read More

What do men feel about marriage markets?

Do men also feel that they are judged in the marriage market - for their looks, jobs, assets? Do men also feel that they are forced into matrimony? Sh ... Read More

When friends have sex

If you have sex with a close friend, does it mean you are in a relationship? Can a relationship between friends work if they end up having sex and fee ... Read More

Activity by Saumya Tewari

Saumya Tewari

Saumya Tewari Commented

22 Mar 2017

Comment : I agree with you- true love is a bit selfish- it is for you to feel, not for others! Even un-reciprocated, it is a feeling for you to cherish- it can never be stolen from you :)
Why I loved him even though it was one sided |

Loving someone who doesn't love you back

Sreemoyee Basu
Sreemoyee Basu
Posted on : 21 Mar 2017

They never dated; he moved on, she didn’t, but she doesn’t think it was a mistake

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Saumya Tewari

Saumya Tewari Commented

22 Mar 2017

Comment :

Yes Raksha, that is what I meant being single is for me- if I feel I can't be myself in a relationship, I am better off single :) 

Bonobology community helps me understand what constitutes healthy relationships learning from stories and experiences of other members!

People in your life can't be trial and error - you take the plunge only when you are sure about what you want, else someone ends up getting hurt!

What do you intend to get out of this discussion page? What can this page do to help you better? What do you wish this page could help you with?

Saumya Tewari

Saumya Tewari Commented

22 Mar 2017

Comment :

To be honest, I have never felt the peer pressure- at least not upto now- age 32 :)

But it could be because I am a weirdo loner ;)

Though in my future, I do see someone significant with whom I would like to share a part of my life and grow old- maybe a loner like me! 

And yes, it is better to be single than in a wrong relationship only because everyone else seems to be enjoing it- you never know what the happy couples are hiding!

When i notice the teenagers around me , i feel there is one thing common amongst majority of them . Either they are already in a relationship ( Yes! Even at the age of 14 ) or they are constantly under pressure for finding a GF/BF so that they can fit well in their social circle. 

Not just the teenagers but i feel this need to FIT IN has become a major cause of stress for Singles of all age group. Due to this , they sometimes tend to fall in wrong relationships .

I would love to know what others think about this.

Saumya Tewari

Saumya Tewari Commented

22 Mar 2017

Comment :

I think its simple- look for what makes you want to be with that person all the time- what you miss when he is not around, what brings a smile to your face when he is around and what surprises you about him- something you never knew you wanted in a partner!

Though, the difficult part is to find it ;)

We tend to be confused when selecting someone else. What should we do ?

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