Saheli Mitra is a mother of a 13-year-old boy, married to her childhood friend for more than 15 years. She is a gold medalist from Calcutta University in Zoology and did her M.Phil. in Environmental Biology. She loves travelling and writing verses.

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The Affair After Marriage That Saved Me & My Son | Bonobology

You may call me unfaithful

Saheli Mitra
Saheli Mitra
Posted on : 08 Aug 2016

But I was faithful to my needs and desires, and to my son who needed a father figure, says Mona Ray

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Bonobology | A Modern Draupadi | Loving Two Men With Consent

A modern Draupadi...loving two men with consent

Saheli Mitra
Saheli Mitra
Posted on : 29 May 2016

Indian society expects that married women will have no relationships outside marriage, but Saheli has experienced such a relationship, with ...

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Surrogacy and adoption as ways to grow the family | Bonobology

Why I decided to go for surrogacy or adoption despite being able to give birth

Saheli Mitra
Saheli Mitra
Posted on : 03 Mar 2016

Saheli Mitra talks about the justification for and social challenges in trying alternate ways of growing the family instead of giving birth

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Comments: 12
Finding Your Soulmate In Your Best Friend Who Helped You Date | Bonobology

From helping me date other boys to being my husband

Saheli Mitra
Saheli Mitra
Posted on : 09 Feb 2016

Saheli Mitra relates her life story and what happens when your best friend becomes your husband.

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Comments: 18

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Saheli Mitra Commented

29 Nov 2016

Comment : Its an absolute must for me. Unless my partner knows my secrets and relationships I never feel clear tommy conscience. Its not that I feel I am cheating him but that he has the right to know what all goes on in my life. So I have always shared details. Now if he can't take it then we would never have been married in the first place. But thankfully he respected my relationships even some that left me with a lot of hurt. And frankly I feel lucky that atleast I have someone in my life who i can go to and cry over and not keep things just to myself.

Is it ok to completely avoid talking of the details of our past relationships? Does the past really matter enough to be spoken about?


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Saheli Mitra Commented

10 Nov 2016

Comment : Over the years have realised love is not chaos. On the contrary it is a self satisfying realisation that puts one to peace.. inner peace. So i would rather say love inner peace and meditation go hand in hand. Hence meditation and mind control automatically redirects our feelings of love in the most profound and universal fashion.. a love that comes from within.. from the deepest depths of our being.

all too often, a show of love passes for love - frequent sex, being seen together at the right places at the right time - but do we really listen to each other? regular meditation can help you communicate better.


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Saheli Mitra Commented

27 Sep 2016

Comment : Its because of the same logic that doesn't allow Indian couples to speak even about the excitement of their sex life, let alone abuse. For us sex is a taboo. Thats how we are timed and taught. Abuse is also an aspect where many women are frightened. They do not have a place to go to. Not financially independent. So many stay back and may be many women are even taught that sexual abuse by a husband is a common and accepted affair. How many of us even talk on marital rape! We don't

Sex is an important aspect but when it comes to sexual abuse, the victim partner prefers to conceal about the fact.This is seen in most cases until & unless the situation become unbearable. Is it because they are shy of speaking about their partners aggressive character or because they think talking about their partners abusiveness brings in light their sexual life in-front of society?


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Saheli Mitra Commented

15 Sep 2016

Comment : I learnt to share a bed with someone and that was a major change ... and learnt that a bed can be a heavenly gateway too.

Saheli Mitra

Saheli Mitra Commented

14 Sep 2016

Comment : I can so relate to this article but one point I do not agree. Without love even desire doesn't exist. Emotions are bound to come into such relationships. So the woman in this particular relationship confuses me. What did she want? Just lust and sex? If its friendship even then some strings are attached. Else everyone would go to a prostitute to meet over lust
Having An Affair Lit My Life | Bonobology

An affair that lit up my life

Vaidy
Vaidy
Posted on : 14 Sep 2016

It was unconventional and beautiful in its naked form, yet sinful and adulterous when clothed in societal norms

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