Shailendra Gulhati is a Jammu based Shaivite author who has 5 books to his credit. He has been called upon to participate twice in the SAARC Writers Summit as also in the Festival of India held at Thailand.

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Love Story for Eternity | Bonobology

Perfect transmission for eternal love

Shailendra Gulhati
Shailendra Gulhati
Posted on : 29 Dec 2016

Romance in the days before social media and smartphones meant long face-to-face conversations and wooing with poetry

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Shailendra Gulhati Commented

17 Jan 2017

Comment : yes! there's something intrinsic about the cold that makes you snuggle naturally-almost as if by Nature's design.Winters in a warm country, sort of increase the appetite, in all realms. Having that warm coffee with a heavenly aroma, or a nice wine / cognac in bed with your partner is a perfect prelude, for a very romantic session. ..:)

Everyone loves to cuddle up when it's cold right? Do you miss someone more in winters? Are you more open to romantic conversations in this weather? Does garam chai and snuggling up under a quilt make you smile? Let's talk


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Shailendra Gulhati Commented

01 Dec 2016

Comment : Right now, this is only a hypothetical question for me because things have been good through many years of my marriage..

But i can say , yes there are some people who do have a good marriage even though they don't have a sex life( i know more than one case where the male partner is impaired into a dysfunction, but they still make a great couple.) On the other hand, sex ( or rather the absence of it) can definitely be a reason for people to leave each other. let's not fool ourselves about the passionate decisions it can influence. Age matters. If you've been buddies when you're young, with each passing year the chances are you will find that there are other things to make the marriage strong, Love and companionship are great adhesives too. :)

Sexual chemistry (& physics & geography) :) is vital to a marriage. However, in a relationship if the couple is at odds regarding the frequency, the variety, the grammar, the syntax, the vocabulary...... can it still script a fairy tale marriage?


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Shailendra Gulhati Commented

28 Nov 2016

Comment : There! you have it! if the partner's pensive condition is important- you will make time!

Whenever our partners cannot handle our intensity they say 'don't think too much'..thoughts, comments people?


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Shailendra Gulhati Commented

28 Nov 2016

Comment : Now, when i say that to my spouse, i think i am being kind to her, you know, asking her to chill. but when she says this to me, i feel maybe she isnt getting exactly why i am being so intense, diving so deep! so yes, you have a thought provoking question here.Its at times like these that a higher level of communication is needed, a greater 'heart speak' its not that the partner cannot handle the intensity- its more like he hasn't gotten fully to it and needs more from you to do so.

Whenever our partners cannot handle our intensity they say 'don't think too much'..thoughts, comments people?


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Shailendra Gulhati Commented

25 Nov 2016

Comment : BECAUSE YOUR BEDROOM IS YOUR PRIVATE UNIVERSE...

The bedroom, is actually the whole wide world of two lovers, and it should translate into that: A private, exotic universe which belongs exclusively , just like the lovers belong to each other. The word private is my cue for what a bedroom should be: it should enable you to come out with your innermost passion, within the security of your four walled Universe.So the walls should speak out inuendos with their colours. A newly married's bedroom doesn't have to be classic ivory painted , it can be pink or lilac! ask your spouse what they like! Then, mirrors. i find mirrors can enhance your sensuality, by witnessing your own self. place them strategically. On the other hand i dont fancy glass walled bathrooms.If you can afford it, the bathroom should be big enough to accomodate both of you . The bedroom, is, after all, a lot about the bed itself. I feel the bed should be more about comfort rather than an ornate pillared post which you cant climb; you should be able to jump about it in joy! Lighting can be subdued at will by all the modern technology, ah yes, you should have it on remote.Using incense lamps is a wonderful idea, you dont have to wait for a spa visit to breathe in your favourite aroma ( i like lavender) ! The linen you use HAS to be immaculately clean and pleasing, and not just plain white, a delicate flower print is more like it. Last, but not least: are you a music lover? put on some beautiful soft instrumental by jetaime or then move on to Marvin gaye. :)



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