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Why it is perfectly okay never to get married

Sreetama Basu
Sreetama Basu
Posted on : 14 Nov 2016

It is perfectly OK never to get married, if marriage means compromise and loss of freedom

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Sreetama Basu Commented

07 Apr 2017

Comment :

Absolutely. I stay with so many of them and interact with them on a daily basis.

Infidelity is infidelity, irrespective of who does it. Then why is it so that when a woman falters, it's made such a huge deal of? It even goes to the extent of the woman being slut shamed., and people spreading rumors about her, she becomes the topic of gossips... Why?


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Sreetama Basu Commented

27 Dec 2016

Comment : Absolutely not. I don't know what the scenes for married couple are, but coming from a family of love marriages all around me, I never saw any money-related fights in the family. Taking my parents' example, my mother comes from one of the richest families in my city (her grandpa was a Member of Parliament), and she married a 'commoner'. The kind of luxury she was brought up in, she didn't get it at her in laws'. There was never an issue because of that.

But coming to my generation, I myself had been in a live in relationship for a while. Honestly, money was never an issue. We both had our jobs, and while I was the careless spender and couldn't save a penny, my guy was the saving type. Every month after I would spend my entire salary, I could only take care of the necessities with the remaining money towards the end of the month. And my guy would pamper me with all the things I label as 'luxury'.. So, you see, the bottomline is, you need to have that kind of understanding with your partner and it depends upon the 2 people whether or not they want money to be a deciding factor for their happiness.

I gave two examples where money never played a role in deciding the happiness of the couple. Rest, you decide. :)

Money is never an easy subject to address, especially in a romantic relationship. If it's a live-in then it's even worse. But friction does happen over managing money, deciding whether an expense is a necessity or a luxury, if both partners should be equal contributors, if the one who is contributing more should have a greater say in matters of money? Questions are too many. But the biggest one of them is: can it break a couple, in spite of them being in love otherwise? What do you think?


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Sreetama Basu Commented

20 Dec 2016

Comment : It is the globalisation that has made people superficial, artificial, intolerant, commitment phobic and what not? And smartphone is a part of this modernization..

But even today when sex is so easy to get, it still depends on the individual whether he wants to fall into temptation or not. So its about the individual's choice. I think smartphone has got nothing to do with it.

Smartphones allow interaction with all kinds of people.It is possible to exchange photos, messages, & what not with the help of these devices... Has the advent of smartphones contributed to the rising infidelity in couple relationships?



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