Lekha Menon is a journalist who thought she had made a difference but was practical enough to realise she hadn't. A closet romantic, she is accused of being a cynic but she believes she is a realist.

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Do Women Still Expect Chivalry from Men | Feminism & Chivalry | Bonobology.com

Has fight for gender equality affected man-woman interaction in relationships?

Lekha Menon
Lekha Menon
Posted on : 05 May 2017

Is chivalry outdated in these times of gender equality? She thinks it is still charming and sweet, but women need to be clear in the message...

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Review of the Bollywood movie Rangoon by Lekha Menon | Bonobology

Love in Rangoon

Lekha Menon
Lekha Menon
Posted on : 25 Feb 2017

Fascinating, frustrating, fraught with possibilities

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South Indian movie remake - OK Jaanu, Will it work in the Box Office?

Will OK Jaanu do OKK?

Lekha Menon
Lekha Menon
Posted on : 12 Jan 2017

OK Kanmani worked in Tamil. Will OK Jaanu work in Hindi?

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When I Tried To Make Romance Happen | Bonobology

When I Tried to Make it Happen...

Lekha Menon
Lekha Menon
Posted on : 14 Jul 2016

Planned or natural, romance may happen... or not, says Lekha Menon.

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What happens when you have feelings of love for a friend? | Bonobology.com

I know we are friends but...

Lekha Menon
Lekha Menon
Posted on : 14 Apr 2016

That mortifying, terrifying moment when he asks you to be more than a friend, as experienced by Lekha Menon.

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Discussions by Lekha Menon

Will your love for your partner go away if he/she suddenly cannot earn enough money?

We live in times of recession and job losses. If one of the partners (especially the man) loses his job, and suddenly the income dries up and the bill ... Read More


Technology and relationship

Most affairs - pre or extra-marital - these days start with long chats. Just wondering, if whatsapp, messenger, twitter etc were not free, would we t ... Read More



Activity by Lekha Menon

Lekha Menon

Lekha Menon Commented

13 May 2017

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It's very very tough. Long distance relationships are difficult to maintain but there is a huge positive side to it. Ever heard of familiarity breeds contempt? Well, that can never happen in this situation! Besides, what is technology for? One of the few good things about living in a tech-influenced world is that you never feel you are away from the one you love. Agreed, a skype call can never match with the real thing but it just makes you long more for him/her and when you meet, the meeting is just that much sweeter and more passionate. 

Relocating to a different city is an emotional affair, especially when you are leaving him behind. How to cope up?


Lekha Menon

Lekha Menon Commented

13 May 2017

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Years of conditioning has made us think like this. Society in general and men in particular really don't know how to handle an agressive woman who has no qualms in getting what she wants. We have always wanted women to be 'coy' and the man to take the mantle of wooing. I guess be it a man or woman, what matters is the style of wooing. Wooing is an art, when you do it intelligently, it really doesn't matter who has made the first move - man or woman. Secondly, if you are a woman and want to court your love interest and he has a problem with it - not because he isn't interested (If that's the case back of immediately, otherwise it will come across as stalking) - but because you are a woman, then he is most certainly not the right guy for you!

Fellow community members, a simple question- why can't men handle women asking them out or wooing them? Why do women have to wait for the man to ask her out. Why do my friends tell me "nooo, you see if he is coming for you, if he calls you first"? I can't even think of any movies where the woman courts her man or confesses her love and he does not hurt her. She has to wait for him to come after her/ to realize. Why does it seem as if it ONLY depends on the man's will?!

 


Lekha Menon

Lekha Menon Commented

13 May 2017

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It can be tricky. My suggestion would be to introduce your lifestyle bit by bit. Don't give them a shock all of a sudden. Make it matter of fact and try not to make a big deal out of it. Gradually, they will come to terms with it. 

 

I have been dogged by this occurrence ever since I got married. As a single person, I never faced this but after getting married and starting to interact with other couples in the family as well as outside, I realized that many couples in our generation maintain double lives. As a couple we have mutual understanding and indulge in what our parents think are vices (non-vegetarian food, alcohol etc) but the parents have no clue because we never mention it to them and pretend that we have the same preferences as our parents. So many times when we are all outside, a common instruction given out is to not share photos lest the parents see what we are up to. It pains me, this exclusion, this double life, this pretense. I keep thinking they will never get to participate in our lives 100% due to these lies and hidden truths. And what happens when we all have to live together for longer periods? Why force children to follow one lifestyle as if the children are still immature, and why should the children encourage that? Why can't we all as adults accept that we have different lifestyles and these small things are not a chink in anyone's honour? Any suggestions on navigating this minefield? Should we tell the truth and risk it, or continue to lie and hide these facts?


Lekha Menon

Lekha Menon Commented

06 May 2017

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It's a trick question. It is possible to act out of lust and not love. Love lasts, lust doesn't. Lust is instant gratification, love is much more. You think about the person, you care about him/her. But you can't have love without lust; the vice-versa is possible. 

Love is blind, they say; sex is impervious to reason and mocks the power of all philosophers. But, in fact, a person's sexual choice is the result and sum of their fundamental convictions.Are love and sex inextricably linked? Can love exist without sex? Quite often, a woman considers love as the foundation of intimacy and a man considers sex to be the ultimate expression of love. Understanding how each views sex is important for sustaining a relationship and keeping love alive. But what is it that drives women closer to men - is it love that leads to lust or vice versa?


Lekha Menon

Lekha Menon Commented

06 May 2017

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Essentially, it's the thrill of the forbidden fruit. Loneliness, boredom etc are just excuses. We, as humans, need change, variety. We are constantly seeking change, why expect man (or woman) to be monogamous? Personally, i feel if you are in a committed relationship like marriage, you don't seek a relationship outside it consciously. It just happens and if there is not severe pressure to maintain your existing bond, you will be tempted to follow your heart. 



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