Tapan Mozumdar is an engineer by training and a real estate builder by profession. He is interested in poetry, short stories and now, in photography. He is undergoing anger management therapy and lives with his parents and wife. 

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The Online Affair | Bonobology

In search of an affair

Tapan Mozumdar
Tapan Mozumdar
Posted on : 11 Jan 2017

He met her online and was thrilled to get a chance to meet her in real life. Would the meeting live up to his expectations?

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Wife

My wife's dreams

Tapan Mozumdar
Tapan Mozumdar
Posted on : 15 Nov 2016

Is it too late for the wife to try and realise some of the dreams she had as a young bride?

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Discussions by Tapan Mozumdar

Is it acceptable to have an understanding, romantic work relationship without compromising on marriage?

Close proximity for hours between two like minded people of opposite sex - who can deny this recipe for a delectable romance brewing? Conflict happens ... Read More


Is Live-in a recourse for the non-committal couples for physical or financial comfort?

Commitment phobia is one the rise. It's not rare to find a couple agreeing to Live-in for financial prudence. Physical gratification is an added lure. ... Read More


Is patriotism enough to keep the wife of an Army officer waiting for her husband without going astray?

Long, extended deputations under harsh conditions in combat over a hostile terrain - that's an Army officer's life. His wife awaits his return, usuall ... Read More


Is it acceptable for a modern woman to have husband dependent on her income?

We have seen traditional role of a man working for a family, wife being a homemaker and other dependents usually on the single man's income. Do we see ... Read More


What's the recourse if a man finds cyber-sex including porn more engaging than the real one with his spouse?

Will it be considered infidelity if a man enjoys cyber-sex and porn more sexually pleasing and exciting than the real one with his spouse? What's the ... Read More



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Tapan Mozumdar Commented

21 Jan 2017

Comment : Happened with me as well. Younger years were spent making a livelihood and ignoring the silent partner. Now when I try to connect, I often reach a deadend.

Tapan Mozumdar

Tapan Mozumdar Commented

15 Jan 2017

Comment : That's perhaps not romance but lust you are talking about. If winter triggered romance, India and other tropical countries wouldn't have been the highest people generator. Winter makes libido limited to warmer places. Summer liberates. World becomes the playground :)

Everyone loves to cuddle up when it's cold right? Do you miss someone more in winters? Are you more open to romantic conversations in this weather? Does garam chai and snuggling up under a quilt make you smile? Let's talk


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Tapan Mozumdar Commented

13 Jan 2017

Comment : I would say some bit of jealousy is good in a romantic relationship. It keeps the couple on their toes to look and behave well and take care of each other's implicit and explicit needs. It gets bitter when jealousy is coupled with extreme possessiveness and suspicion. This usually happens with the insecure partner in a couple but soon can get transferred to the other person. In case it gets clinical, a couple therapy may not be a bad idea.

For normal jealousy issues, it is easier to speak directly if a certain behaviour seems unacceptable to a partner. If a partner is spending more quality team with another person than their spouse, then the erring partner must be asked some direct questions. The partner will either become careful and conscious or will give signs to move on.

Both are far more acceptable than spending a life together of disputed and suspicious togetherness.

In today's times, where men and women interact freely with each other ,how do you deal with and address jealousy issues in your relationship?


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Tapan Mozumdar Commented

13 Jan 2017

Comment : I'd tend to agree here. I have been poor at cooking and relationships, both. There must have been a strong correlation! On a serious note, sharing work responsibilities, domestic or office work, tends to improve understanding and care for each other, which are the key foundations of a successful romantic partnership.

Does enjoying the challenge of rustling up the perfect dish enable a man to perfect his relationship skills? In my opinion, it often does. What has your experience been? Do you think the better a man's cooking abilities, the better he is at appreciating his partner? Or does one have no bearing on the other?


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Tapan Mozumdar Commented

13 Jan 2017

Comment : I felt lost, devastated and, trust me, relieved that the irritating burden of being in love don't have to be carried forward. Romantic relationships, which are undefined or unapproved by the societies or families, can have more devastating effects while being in them than getting out of them.

Do you feel lost after the separation as if the everlasting love is just a myth?



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