Tapan Mozumdar is an engineer by training and a real estate builder by profession. He is interested in poetry, short stories and now, in photography. He is undergoing anger management therapy and lives with his parents and wife. 

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The Online Affair | Bonobology

In search of an affair

Tapan Mozumdar
Tapan Mozumdar
Posted on : 11 Jan 2017

He met her online and was thrilled to get a chance to meet her in real life. Would the meeting live up to his expectations?

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Wife

My wife's dreams

Tapan Mozumdar
Tapan Mozumdar
Posted on : 15 Nov 2016

Is it too late for the wife to try and realise some of the dreams she had as a young bride?

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Blogs published by Tapan Mozumdar

Hanging Around

Two strangers meet. Romanced to marriage, or married to togetherness, any which way, they cover distances together. Uphill, down the slope ...

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Discussions by Tapan Mozumdar

What is precious to today's young woman: freedom of choices or a commitment for long?

Today's woman is educated, smart, competitive, unafraid to exercise her choices about men, among other things. They may seek care, they may desire gra ... Read More


Which one is worse, a loose hand of an otherwise quiet spouse or the verbal onslaught demeaning every living hour of your existence?

In several couples, verbal duel is common. It is expected, routine. When the civility of it all relegates to insults, deliberate assaults, the vict ... Read More


How to deal with the accusations from the past

When a spouse constantly reminds the other of the mistakes and poor judgments that were done 3, 5, 7 or even 15 years back, it becomes incorrigible. T ... Read More


Is it acceptable to have an understanding, romantic work relationship without compromising on marriage?

Close proximity for hours between two like minded people of opposite sex - who can deny this recipe for a delectable romance brewing? Conflict happens ... Read More


Is Live-in a recourse for the non-committal couples for physical or financial comfort?

Commitment phobia is one the rise. It's not rare to find a couple agreeing to Live-in for financial prudence. Physical gratification is an added lure. ... Read More



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Tapan Mozumdar

Tapan Mozumdar Commented

25 Mar 2017

Comment :

If one has to make a choice, then?

In several couples, verbal duel is common. It is expected, routine. When the civility of it all relegates to insults, deliberate assaults, the victim seethes. Mostly, the victim has either an economic or an emotional dependency on the assaulter. Mostly, it's a He on the receiving end.

Then there are some where hands are let loose, and the other organs of torture. Blue marks are hidden under the odhni at work. When these marks get visible, a fall is usually the excuse. Mostly, the recipients of such abuse is a She.

Both are unwarranted, deplorable. The argument, useless one at that, often is: Which one is worse? Which one may be excused? 

What do you think?


Tapan Mozumdar

Tapan Mozumdar Commented

25 Mar 2017

Comment :

Civility, dear friend! Your behaviour amounts to the abuse I was referring to. A little provocation, with due apologies, yet your fingers get loose. Lost of purpose, just to make a point. Thus, alas, the verbal abuse starts. 

In several couples, verbal duel is common. It is expected, routine. When the civility of it all relegates to insults, deliberate assaults, the victim seethes. Mostly, the victim has either an economic or an emotional dependency on the assaulter. Mostly, it's a He on the receiving end.

Then there are some where hands are let loose, and the other organs of torture. Blue marks are hidden under the odhni at work. When these marks get visible, a fall is usually the excuse. Mostly, the recipients of such abuse is a She.

Both are unwarranted, deplorable. The argument, useless one at that, often is: Which one is worse? Which one may be excused? 

What do you think?


Tapan Mozumdar

Tapan Mozumdar Commented

25 Mar 2017

Comment :

What if you don't have an option?

In several couples, verbal duel is common. It is expected, routine. When the civility of it all relegates to insults, deliberate assaults, the victim seethes. Mostly, the victim has either an economic or an emotional dependency on the assaulter. Mostly, it's a He on the receiving end.

Then there are some where hands are let loose, and the other organs of torture. Blue marks are hidden under the odhni at work. When these marks get visible, a fall is usually the excuse. Mostly, the recipients of such abuse is a She.

Both are unwarranted, deplorable. The argument, useless one at that, often is: Which one is worse? Which one may be excused? 

What do you think?


Tapan Mozumdar

Tapan Mozumdar Commented

20 Mar 2017

Comment :

I believe love is overrated. Between two people of opposite sex, there can be trust, comofrt, desire, dependency - all or a couple of these relationships - to make them be with each other. I guess more the number of the above relationships, more we 'feel' we are in love. They may be together as a friend, a colleague, a business partner, a relative. Whether this pair would finally grow needs for each other to spend their life, or a significant part of it, together, is fast changing with time. Thus, when one of the partners express a romantic desire for the other one and faces a rejection, it becomes difficult, embarrassing and, sometimes, outright impossible to share the same togehterness with objectivity.


Tapan Mozumdar

Tapan Mozumdar Commented

20 Mar 2017

Comment :

My own case was such that my parents were, and still are, possessive about me and that hurt my wife a lot. 22 years into the arriage, I realise they could have done far better to leave us alone in our early days and give us to understand and explore each other's needs and idiosyncracies early in life. We miss that opportunity, still, and crave for that past with each other.

 

Like how can a person  adjust  in a family after marriage if in -laws don't have acceptability or they don't? give time to adjust. It feels suffocating when no one understands. 



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