Tapan Mozumdar is an engineer by training and a real estate builder by profession. He is interested in poetry, short stories and now, in photography. He is undergoing anger management therapy and lives with his parents and wife. 

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Stories by Tapan Mozumdar

What drove Vinod Khanna to the Osho Ashram? | A Tribute to Vinod Khanna

Vinod Khanna and Osho: the fascinating attraction

Tapan Mozumdar
Tapan Mozumdar
Posted on : 28 Apr 2017

Successful and popular, Vinod Khanna left Bollywood and his family to join Acharya Rajneesh (Osho)’s commune. What might have been the motiv...

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मेरी पत्नी के सपने

Tapan Mozumdar
Tapan Mozumdar
Posted on : 15 Apr 2017

क्या पत्नी के लिए उसके सपनों को पहचानने के लिए बहुत देर हो चुकी है जो उसने एक युवा दुल्हन के रूप में देखे थे?

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The Online Affair | Bonobology

In search of an affair

Tapan Mozumdar
Tapan Mozumdar
Posted on : 11 Jan 2017

He met her online and was thrilled to get a chance to meet her in real life. Would the meeting live up to his expectations?

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Wife

My wife's dreams

Tapan Mozumdar
Tapan Mozumdar
Posted on : 15 Nov 2016

Is it too late for the wife to try and realise some of the dreams she had as a young bride?

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Blogs published by Tapan Mozumdar

Hanging Around

Two strangers meet. Romanced to marriage, or married to togetherness, any which way, they cover distances together. Uphill, down the slope ...

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Discussions by Tapan Mozumdar

When the sex gets mundane in a marriage, is it wrong to look for it outside?

This is not a sexist question. Depending upon the libido at your middle age, you may find yourself lacking in sexual experiences. Pent up frustrations ... Read More


What is precious to today's young woman: freedom of choices or a commitment for long?

Today's woman is educated, smart, competitive, unafraid to exercise her choices about men, among other things. They may seek care, they may desire gra ... Read More


Which one is worse, a loose hand of an otherwise quiet spouse or the verbal onslaught demeaning every living hour of your existence?

In several couples, verbal duel is common. It is expected, routine. When the civility of it all relegates to insults, deliberate assaults, the vict ... Read More


How to deal with the accusations from the past

When a spouse constantly reminds the other of the mistakes and poor judgments that were done 3, 5, 7 or even 15 years back, it becomes incorrigible. T ... Read More


Is it acceptable to have an understanding, romantic work relationship without compromising on marriage?

Close proximity for hours between two like minded people of opposite sex - who can deny this recipe for a delectable romance brewing? Conflict happens ... Read More



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Activity by Tapan Mozumdar

Tapan Mozumdar

Tapan Mozumdar Commented

06 May 2017

Comment :

Love marriages start with huge familiarity. Familiarity breeds contempt. Familiarity steals away curiosity , novelty. Both are known a lot to each other, physically and mentally, before starting to live with each other. Some times, they have already lived together. 

Arranged marriages have good curiosity value. Novelty has its own way to pave and retain romance. 

The reverse happens as well, often. 


Tapan Mozumdar

Tapan Mozumdar Commented

06 May 2017

Comment :

Number one reason is economic dependence. Self reliant women do not take abuse kindly. Me? think many times before taking and economically liberated women for granted. 

There are cases where economically independent women too face abuse and still don't walk out on the me?. Emotional dependence is one reason for that. Social stigma on the women who walk out, however successful is still there. 

Life is a mixed bag. Why people don't walk out of abusive relationships, even me?, varies widely in the society. 


Tapan Mozumdar

Tapan Mozumdar Commented

21 Apr 2017

Comment :

Poors of India and other such societies do not have the luxury of even a bedroom for them, and yet they multiply faster than the richer with personal bedrooms. Now, the scare of being heard is highly overrated in this segment. I can vouch that life doesn't imitate 'art' or whatever such films are called, and the loudest amongst us can't be heard through a closed,good quality door. This is my experience, from wither side of the door ;)

Having said that, we are not talking about a heinous crime being xommitted and that should be done in deepest of secret. We are talking about procreation and recreation, at times. Curiosity from the outside of the door may lead to titialltion or embarrassment, depending on the mindset, For the inside people, courtesy will require to contain the exclamations. In fact, deeper and more real the pleasure, the less are the screams. Screams usually indicate posing; fake declaration of feelings which do not exist. The intent may be, then, to have an audience of an ongoing closeness, where none exists.


Tapan Mozumdar

Tapan Mozumdar Commented

13 Apr 2017

Comment :

Sex is as usual and necessary like food, air or shelter. Its absence or incompatibility is one of the main reasons for divorce around the world. It may manifest itself in terms of infidelity or mental cruelty, but the root cause is often sex. In conservative families, women are constrained to express it. Such repression of desire or repulsion towards the physical acts may turn women aggressive or helpless, depending on her mind set. 

It is a bad case to live with. 

What if you do not have sexual compatibility with your husband/wife and you find this out after marriage? Is this considered as an important aspect of the married life?


Tapan Mozumdar

Tapan Mozumdar Commented

25 Mar 2017

Comment :

If one has to make a choice, then?

In several couples, verbal duel is common. It is expected, routine. When the civility of it all relegates to insults, deliberate assaults, the victim seethes. Mostly, the victim has either an economic or an emotional dependency on the assaulter. Mostly, it's a He on the receiving end.

Then there are some where hands are let loose, and the other organs of torture. Blue marks are hidden under the odhni at work. When these marks get visible, a fall is usually the excuse. Mostly, the recipients of such abuse is a She.

Both are unwarranted, deplorable. The argument, useless one at that, often is: Which one is worse? Which one may be excused? 

What do you think?



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