Dr Gaurav Deka is a writer, a medical doctor and a psychotherapist based in Delhi. His articles, essays and opinion pieces have been published in Scroll, The Hindu Blink, The Times of India, Live Mint, Love Matters, Himal Southasian, and DailyO, among many others. He is also part of The Times of India – Ask the Expert column. 

 
 

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Six things to let go of in a long-term relationship | Bonobology

Six things to let go of in a long-term relationship

Gaurav Deka
Gaurav Deka
Posted on : 15 Feb 2017

What are the extras that you need to let go of for any long-term relationship to flourish?

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Creative People and Success in Relationships | Bonobology

Can creative people have successful relationships?

Gaurav Deka
Gaurav Deka
Posted on : 07 Jan 2017

Om Puri, who died recently, was a stalwart actor, but when it came to his personal life, success seemed to evade him

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Being comfortable in One

Mirror, mirror on the wall...On orientation and being comfortable in our bodies

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Gaurav Deka
Posted on : 24 Nov 2016

Being happy in one’s own body is often very difficult and stressful, even without the pressure of differences in sexuality

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Gaurav Deka Commented

19 Mar 2017

Comment : The most obvious after effects and byproducts of letting a relationship go, or a break up is an internal 'void'. And all voids demand some amount of filling up. Now, it demands how we feed these voids. Some people feed it through substance, some others feed it through emotional surplus. It is then that rebounds become handy. But these voids demand more and more filling. Therefore an alcoholic remains an alcoholic, or an emotional eater remains so. There is no stop to it or end to it. Plus, there is always some amount of collateral damage. So, before anyone goes for a rebound, one can stand back and think "what is this void all about". It is important to identify it and mend it. It is important to have a relationship with yourself first - a healthy, kind, non-addictive one. And then search for a certain someone who can be with you, and spend the rest of your life or a part of it with you.

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Gaurav Deka Commented

11 Mar 2017

Comment : Love is the most original, the most primal and the beginning of all things. We also know that as humans we survive on connections and co-existence. Hence the idea of relationship is primary to survival. And it is because of relationships people can create meaning in their lives. Without the existence of a certain 'other', in other words, without the existence of connection, nothing would ever make sense. Therefore relationships are the only thing that keep us happy. And for that happiness to survive and seek maintenance, love is non-compensatory.

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08 Jan 2017

Creative People and Success in Relationships | Bonobology

Can creative people have successful relationships?

Gaurav Deka
Gaurav Deka
Posted on : 07 Jan 2017

Om Puri, who died recently, was a stalwart actor, but when it came to his personal life, success seemed to evade him

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Comments: 3


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