Madhuri is the author of Untying the fine knots: How to deal with Divorce. She is a writer of children’s fiction and has also ghost-written three books of business fiction and non-fiction. An alumna of IIM-Ahmedabad, she worked in marketing and business development before becoming a full-time writer. She grew up in Vijayawada and now lives in Ahmedabad.

I am the author of Untying the fine knots: How to deal with Divorce. I write children’s fiction. I have also ghost-written three books of business fiction and non-fiction.

 
 

Stories by Madhuri Y

Who

Whose advice should I take for my divorce?

Madhuri Y
Madhuri Y
Posted on : 10 Mar 2017

In the process of breaking up a marriage, one is given advice from many different quarters. Whose advice should you take?

Views: 1.38k
Comments: 3
Dealing with the Ex | Bonobology

Book excerpt: Untying the fine knots

Madhuri Y
Madhuri Y
Posted on : 24 Dec 2016

She came through a divorce to write about the experience to help others in similar situations. Here is an excerpt from Untying the fine knot...

Views: 1.36k
Comments: 6

 

Activity by Madhuri Y

Madhuri Y

Madhuri Y Commented

23 Apr 2017

Comment :

I feel she should take the decision herself. Maybe you can sound her out and see how she feels about it. Maybe they have a mutual understanding, it's best to understand her side of things before giving her your view.

I have a friend who is a homemaker. While her husband seems like a nice person otherwise, I've noticed he keeps her on a very tight budget. It's not because he doesn't have money. He just gives her very little to run the house and almost nothing for herself. Is this financial abuse? How do I tell my friend what he's doing is wrong?


Madhuri Y

Madhuri Y Commented

14 Apr 2017

Comment :

What is your advice to couples about how to handle children before and after the marriage?

Marrying again after losing your spouse in the 30s , requires different set of skills as opposed to the first marriage. When you marry for the first time, you are in love, you are young and you think its for ever. In your second marriage , you come with a baggage, you are set in your ways, you have your children and add on his too, and you are older and worldy wise. You need to be patient and mature in this marriage for everything to fall in place.

i have been remarried for 13 years now, after losing my spouse at the age of 38. Four years later I found my second husband who too had lost his wife at a young age.We faced many challenges, on work front,home front and with our children but have managed to survive all the storms and are now cruising together .

Would love to answer any query or doubts anyone has of taking the plunge for the second time.


Madhuri Y

Madhuri Y followed this

02 Apr 2017

Sanjeev Trivedi

Sanjeev Trivedi

Followers 9

Dr Sanjeev Trivedi is a life coach who in last four decades has worked with individuals needing guidance in personal life, partners and owners of small to medium to very large enterprises in sectors like automobile, cement, food products, hospitality, hospitals, ice-cream, information technology, media, petroleum, pharmaceutical, real-estate, telecom etc.

He is one of the finest life coaches and consultation with him is an amazing experience. An attitude engineering expert, he oxygenates your soul with emotional fulfillment, displacing the spiritual void.

Apart from holding a masters in organic chemistry, an MBA in marketing and a Ph.D in stress management he is also an unparalleled astrologer with clients all over the world.


Madhuri Y

Madhuri Y Commented

02 Apr 2017

Comment :

I've come across this a a little too often. The result is, one spouse does not want to move on, the other cannot move on. I am not a lawyer, but I had cause to go in detail into the legal information when I wrote Untying the fine knots: How to deal with Divorce.

In India, we cannot seek a divorce on grounds of irreconcilable differences. When both are unable to agree to a divorce by mutual consent, the lady can file for a contested divorce. But then, there are grounds for contested divorce, like adultery, cruelty, desertion, and a few other specified reasons. If cruelty is involved in this case, a lawyer can guide the lady regarding how to file for a contested divorce. Cruelty is not just physical or verbal abuse, courts have considered unreasonable demands too as valid grounds for divorce. 

The lawyer can also guide her regarding filing for interim maintenance - which is maintenance paid while the case is ongoing. Considering that she does not have active support from her parents, it is particularly necessary for her to be financially independent, since a contested divorce can take 2-3 years before the court order is given.

What are the options for a girl who does not want to surrender and succumb to the irrational demands of the husband and in-laws ? The active support from the parents, with whom she is staying, is also missing. The husband neither takes a corrective action nor makes any move from his side, since last many months.


Madhuri Y

Madhuri Y Commented

27 Mar 2017

Comment :

A rebound really means you haven't given the space to yourself to heal and to learn from the previous relationship. Hence, rebounds aren't particularly healthy for long-term or even medium-term stability. The fact that we know that we are entering into a rebound relationship doesn't help. We are setting ourselves up for a relationship where we aren't able to give ourselves wholly and in a healthy way. And when the inevitable happens (including the events that lead up to it), it becomes a tougher thing to overcome.

Psychiatrists confirm that it takes our brain some time to overcome a trauma. If 2-3 events happen in quick succession, it doesn't get enough time to heal and we set ourselves up to ailments - temporary or permanent.



Disclaimer: The information, views, and opinions expressed here are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views and opinions of Bonobology.

Copyright © 2017 - www.bonobology.com All Rights Reserved Sitemap