Madhuri is the author of Untying the fine knots: How to deal with Divorce. She is a writer of children’s fiction and has also ghost-written three books of business fiction and non-fiction. An alumna of IIM-Ahmedabad, she worked in marketing and business development before becoming a full-time writer. She grew up in Vijayawada and now lives in Ahmedabad.

I am the author of Untying the fine knots: How to deal with Divorce. I write children’s fiction. I have also ghost-written three books of business fiction and non-fiction.

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What Is Marriage | Can It Be Compared To A Blind Man’s Elephant | Bonobology.Com

Why marriage is like a blind man’s elephant

Madhuri
Madhuri
Posted on : 16 May 2017

Marriage is not a fleeting, light thing, but a large, sometimes protective, sometimes overwhelming presence, like an elephant

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Whose advice should I take for my divorce?

Madhuri
Madhuri
Posted on : 10 Mar 2017

In the process of breaking up a marriage, one is given advice from many different quarters. Whose advice should you take?

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Book excerpt: Untying the fine knots

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Madhuri
Posted on : 24 Dec 2016

She came through a divorce to write about the experience to help others in similar situations. Here is an excerpt from Untying the fine knot...

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Blogs published by Madhuri

Ailing Spouses

We don’t normally talk of the difficulty of the decision to divorce or to stay put when the spouse is ailing.

What do you do when yo ...

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Untying The Fine Knots: Book Review (Unapproved)

Kalpana has done a review of Untying the fine knots on Women’s Web. You’ll find it here:

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Madhuri Commented

12 Jun 2017

Comment :

There's no easy answer to this. Eventually, romance cools off in a relationship, the unfortunate thing is the time at which it cools is rarely the same with the husband and the wife. Hence, the pain. Attention is a different matter though. Having an open conversation as Antara suggested is the right thing to do. Also, your life is full of many possibilities, romantic love being one of them. Involving yourself in things that are important to you could temper the need for attention. 

I miss attention,romance,flatter from my husband.I keeping ego and everything aside and explained him my feelings.But no improvement what to do? This makes me more vulnerable for other men, for instance there was a guy how used to flirt with me and I enjoyed it though it's past and I never crossed any limits.But my husband keeps me vulnerable to such temptations.what to do? Please help me.


Madhuri

Madhuri Commented

12 Jun 2017

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First-breakups are always the toughest ones, more so after a divorce. Hang in there! Great advice from the others. To all these I would simply add the suggestion, that you walk into new meetings and new people without expectation. Sometimes, these turn into great friendships. Strong friendships - old and new - have held me together when things were difficult. Sometimes, it's a relationship that isn't meant to be. Be open and assess for yourself whether the specific person/relationship is good for you. Going through a troubled marriage and a divorce gives greater insight into what we really want and in taking the measure of the other person too. Good luck to you!

I got divorced two years ago, which really took an emotional toll on me. However, 6 months ago I started dating someone and thought that maybe I could find love again. But he just broke up with me saying that he doesn't think we are right for each other. I am devastated as this is my first break up after my divorce. I just feel I will never find love, or maybe I don't deserve it. Is something wrong with me? I don't know what I am doing wrong


Madhuri

Madhuri Commented

18 May 2017

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I believe we are speaking of two very different things here. A person can be approachable and amazing and well, they can be amazing but we might fail to see that. That's our loss. If the person loses interest in the other at a time when the other person begins to show interest, they could either be out for the thrill of pursuit (whether they recognise it or not) or it is possible that they have got to know the person slightly better and find things that they don't like. And hence lose interest. 

The only cases I have known are those in which the person looks amazing at first glance or duing the initial couple of interactions, but soon the charm fades as other traits begin showing up. This reality may not be visible to a third person, but is, I feel a common situation.

Do you find that if a person is easy they are not amazing and once they are amazing they are not easy. If you give up pursuit then you are not worth them. First you fob them off when they were easy then they are hard to catch in their amazing avataar. Any real life cases that can be shared centered in this gorgeous metamorphosis. Your comments please.


Madhuri

Madhuri Commented

15 May 2017

Comment :

You put it well Saumya.


Madhuri

Madhuri Commented

13 May 2017

Comment :

You're absolutely right that it doesn't help from the emotional point of view. Even courts do not get into pinning the blame - except to see whether there are grounds to grant a divorce. When it comes to alimony, they don't consider the fault, it's simply based on and who should be paying the alimony and what the amount should be. 

I agree with you that the blame game doesn't help anyone.



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