Nikita Dudani, M.A. Eng.Lit., independent freelancer, content and copy writer. Published in leading dailies. She has been writing stories and poems since her childhood. For her, weaving stories is all that she knows. She believes that her life is a story, whose bits and pieces she is putting together every day.

I am a pro-active person who loves to enjoy every moment in the life. I'm a published writer, author, foodie, tarot reader, reiki therapist.

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Successful Marriage Is Based In Reality, Not Film Fantasy | Bonobology

Let the fantasy world end as the film ends

Nikita Dudani
Nikita Dudani
Posted on : 05 Aug 2016

Nikita Dudani speaks to vocal women who tell you how to handle the fantasies projected by Bollywood romances

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Nikita Dudani Commented

02 Nov 2016

Comment : The reactions that float when you are single in your mid-thirties are:

1) Why are you not married yet? Did someone broke your heart? Or are you pining for someone who doesn't love you back?

2) Are you one of those feminists type? Who doesn't need a guy? if you say yes, they will be like - the education has gone into your head? No one will marry you if you have such liberal thoughts? You need to compromise a little...

3) Career is okay... but you need a man and you need to be a mother to complete woman! duh..!!

What society fails to understand is that single is a choice - you make. By choosing to be single, you are not opposing society "compulsory rules" to get married and to reproduce. It will still take time for Indian society to take understand that a woman can be single and happy.

Single by choice, single and happy, single and not ready to compromise.... well, why not?


Nikita Dudani

Nikita Dudani Commented

29 Aug 2016

Comment : This kind of thinking is a result of the Indian upbringing where males are taught that housework is female's duty. And males have to earn bread for the family. That is their only motive and anything beyond them is the concern of the females of the house. Also, looking after house and children and family members is considered to be feminine duties that males feel ashamed to carry. Males feel ashamed to do house duties because this is what they have learned and seen happening in their families. Therefore, it is engraved in them. And they carry it forward without seeing that this kind of behavior is actually not right. In India, children are taught to follow what their parents do without letting them to question or think for themselves. This is where the actual problem lies. We follow everything said or seen blindly. But I am glad that in my house, this was not the scenario. My dad and brother helps me with the housework and share the load. I'm seen the change happening in many families. But like any other tradition, this mentality is fixed in the very roots of Indian males. It will take time but hopefully, if we all (the current generation) decides to stop following it and teaching it to our coming generation - we can hope for miracles.

A friend of mine says that her husband helps her with chores only if she agrees not to discuss the same in his family, he is OK lending her support but no one should know, especially his mom. What is shameful in letting the world know that a husband cares for his wife?



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