Abhijit Gadre is a professional tea taster and blender of repute. He is also a poet and a story teller, published in different languages. Recognized as a thinker.

 
 

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Remembering His First Love As The Norwesters Blow | Bonobology

Every April when the Nor'westers strike, I remember her

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Posted on : 19 Jul 2016

Abhijit Gadre walks down the memory lane and reminisces about his first brush with romance

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Abhijit Gadre Commented

29 Apr 2017

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Every joke is not like one Draupadi made on Duryodhana. Need not have Mahabharata over it. It could be a passing remark. Maybe your husband apprehends on your health and cannot express it properly. You have already judged him which he may be not. Handled properly this could be a lifelong joke for you two. Cross your fingers and hope for the best.

I was married by my parents to a man who seemed perfect on paper. But I discovered that he is actually a shallow egotistical man who only wanted an arm candy for a wife. I am pregnant and instead of being there for me, I actually heard him joking with a friend that he will cheat on me if I get fat. I feel I am stuck in an abusive relationship with an eating disorder the only escape. 


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Abhijit Gadre Commented

29 Apr 2017

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I totally agree with Ajay.

Man is not loved by his wife only because he is the husband but because of the soul in him. There is a popular saying:

Satyam Bruyat Priyam Bruyannabruyat Satyampriyam

Priyam cha Nanrutam Bruyadeshah Dharmah Sanatanah

Speak true, speak what is pleasant to others, don't tell the truth which is not pleasant or which is harmful or don't speak false just because it is pleasant, that is the Dharma which is true Sanatana.

In short best avoid unpleasantness in the relationship even if you refrain from communication of the same.

Open and honest communication in a marriage is crucial. But sometimes it seems not sharing a few things may be better, or even lying if necessary,for the relationship. When should one refrain from communicating?


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Abhijit Gadre Commented

28 Apr 2017

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Never. Period.

Can he mend his ways at all? Why does a man who has been married, and that too love marriage, need to cheat at all? But once caught and promised to mend his ways, do you think that is possible ever?


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Abhijit Gadre Commented

26 Apr 2017

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I agree with all the wise people who have suggested to severe the abusive relationship ASAP.

But in such case that the victim is in sufference of Stockholm syndrome and is happy and feels safer and secure in the abusive relationship against getting out and face an unknown world, this becomes a tricky situation. I have seen many couples live a whole life under such cicumstances.There are financial reasons mainly in such forced relationships. Many a times I have seen things mellowing down with age and the S&M story fizzles.

Nature has its own way of dealing things, humans may differ.

The question just stopped me in my tracks? Whom i will choose to help? My friend or his/her better half? Will i let better sense prevail? or will i get emotional about the issue?Who will i work to save?


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Abhijit Gadre Commented

26 Apr 2017

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Interesting question, this one. When you speak about roommates the Proximity principle comes to the effect. Whether you touch each other or do not touch each other the proximity does play its role. One cannot avoid the flow of adrelanin when one is close to another, especially one you live within the same room.. You like it or not the proximity principle works. It is your choice whether you wish to be closer and intimate or define a line one would not cross. If things are hunky-dory usually if they are not enemies then room-mates do become soul-mates.

Physical intimacy is a choice.



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