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We are more than friends | Bonobology

Less than lovers, more than friends

Vivek Surendran
Vivek Surendran
Posted on : 20 Feb 2017

He’d been feeling empty inside ever since his breakup but then he met her

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How to forgive after getting cheated | Bonobology

Forgiving my partner's affair to reclaim my life

Vivek Surendran
Vivek Surendran
Posted on : 15 Nov 2016

He trusted her, but was the trust strong enough to forgive her transgression?

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Bonobology | In Love, Or Just Comfortable With & Used To Your Partner?

Together because of love, or because it's habitual and easy?

Vivek Surendran
Vivek Surendran
Posted on : 06 Jun 2016

Should you love, leave or stay? What should you do when your relationship is in a conundrum?

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We are more than friends | Bonobology

Less than lovers, more than friends

Vivek Surendran
Vivek Surendran
Posted on : 20 Feb 2017

He’d been feeling empty inside ever since his breakup but then he met her

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Vivek Surendran Commented

18 Feb 2017

Comment : My thoughts could be a bit scattered but I'll try to make sense.

Men are expected to be chivalrous. They're asked to hold the door, pay the bill etc..And I think it's a good thing. Like my boss says, men wouldn't come into existence had there been no women. I feel women should command that men pay the bill or hold doors. This is one side of it. And I would not judge a woman if she's aware that women are in every way better than men, and hence commands respect. This is one side of it.

Being a feminist, I feel every human being should expect fellow human beings to be chivalrous and courteous. Regardless of gender, both men and women should hold the door, be kind, be thoughtful, be generous and be just. In this case as well, I wouldn't judge anyone, men or women, who want the other person to pay a bill, or if that person wants to pay.

Third part to this. If you go on a date and feel you'd never click with the person midway, split the bill maybe. If you're looking forward for many more dates, ensure you take turns. I also feel the person who earns more, who obviously can afford more, should pay. Be it a man or a woman.

We've all been on atleast one date. And it was probably a coffee shop or dine out or movie or something. Traditional 'dating rules' say the guy must bear the damages. But with changing times, is this rule changing too?

It's just a bill - not about life and death - but people do judge and what we do in certain situations can give out signals.

What do you think? What did / would you do?


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Vivek Surendran Commented

17 Oct 2016

Comment : Monogamy is a socially constructed norm I would say, and thanks to gyaan from some "pyaar ek hi baar hota hai" Bollywood movies. People change like seasons, their interests, aspirations, intelligence level, everything keep changing and if one partner is not able to keep up with another, grow with the other despite both of them putting in enough efforts, they should of course part ways in pursuit of new partners.

Don't we change all through out life? Every 3-4 years we can't believe what we were 3 years back. We are smarter. Our dreams have changed. etc. If such is life and such is the way in which we change constantly throughout life, is monogamy - the act of holding on to one partner - really logical?

You were attracted to a person during a point in your life. You spent a lot of time together. You two know everything about each other and you see that you both are headed down different paths. In such a situation, does it make sense to continue with the old relationship or is it wiser to seek out a new partner who you will relate to better? Who will help you grow?


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Vivek Surendran Commented

06 Oct 2016

Comment : I am all for live-ins, and as far as I know, even my parents are okay with me being in a live-in relationship. As a friend rightly mentioned in one of the previous comments, I feel live-in will prove disastrous in case one of the two partners are not serious about the relationship. I have had many close friends who have been in live-in relationships, but they have not informed their parents, because society. A section of India, I feel, will accept live-ins, but it will take a while for the change to become evident.

Inspite of all the laws that have been passed by the court, live-in is much frowned upon in India still. What is your opinion about it? Is it good/bad/ugly to live-in with your partner? And what about keeping your parents in the know?



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