Why do some younger men find older women more attractive?

There is an increasing trend of younger men finding older women more attractive than the women of their own age. What do you think could be the reason? Is it just about easy non-committal sex or it s about a deeper emotional connect with these women?


It is all about preferences based on transactional analysis that goes on in the mind. An authoritative male would prefer a lady younger to him whereas a gentler or meeker person may prefer a partner with a 'motherly' protection. Could be there in the genetic coding.


A close friend of mine married her boyfriend who is about three years younger to her. They are pretty content in their relationship. However yes she tells me how he had told her that he was always only attracted to older women. His was more of a need to connect with the woman on the same mental level which he found happening with older women..

  • Deepti
  • Posted: 30 Sep 2016

RhitiBose: Ahh, interesting.

Well, there could be a lot of reasons. Maturity in terms of mind and body being one. The sexuality develops in a man's mind (phallus or whatever) at the age of 12 or 13 and whatever he is inclined towards at that age becomes an idol of sexuality for him. Let it be younger women ( because they are there with him) or mature mature (because of matured assets). So, it works that way and our preferences stay with us for a very long time. And, yes.. It's non-committal sex. A person at a young age would want to satisfy his sexual needs first and then entangle himself with emotions and compatibility.


RhitiBose: Thank you Ayushmaan.

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