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Live ins for me are a big no. It's not because of any taboo..but because I would want to rather indulge in a relationship that comes with commitment..because in more cases than one, I have seen that one of the two partners ends up bearing the brunt of a poor handled split.
My brothers - who are well aware of the changing dimensions of the relationships these days - wouldn't be okay with "Live-ins" if their grown up children opt for one, let alone my parents. "Live-in" still have a "taboo" and considered as an unholy relationship by a big part of the India. it is considered as a "urban or big city affair". However I don't mind people having "live-in" relationships provided they are ready to accept the after consequences and outcomes - good/bad/ugly- of such relationships. Unlike in a marriage, it offers freedom for hassle-free get away from it, though it doesn't offer any "security" that any relationship yearns for at some point of time.
I would like to differ here Tina. I think the times are changing, which is why we are now having this discussion. I can speak for myself, and I am pretty sure I would let my children be in a live-in. Also, "security", as you put it, is always a state-of-mind. It will exist or won't, in ANY relationship, with or without institutional boundaries. Both, I think, are exclusive of each other.
I am all for live-ins, and as far as I know, even my parents are okay with me being in a live-in relationship. As a friend rightly mentioned in one of the previous comments, I feel live-in will prove disastrous in case one of the two partners are not serious about the relationship. I have had many close friends who have been in live-in relationships, but they have not informed their parents, because society. A section of India, I feel, will accept live-ins, but it will take a while for the change to become evident.
Well put vivek. But I think, that that mindset is slowly changing. It will take time. Right now its big cities, but is slowly seeping into the smaller setup too. And it is perhaps people like us, kids from small cities who made it big in a metro, who will usher in that change.
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I just wanted to know what do people out here think about live-ins. I have always wondered what it would be like to live with my boyfriend. I mean, to live like a married couple, without getting married. Do you think it takes away from the beauty and fun that marriage brings? Marriage allows you the time and space to discover each other and live-in can perhaps dull that effect? Views, please.
It might be a matter of debate whether Lord Krishna and Radha lived together or not, but live-in relationships find ample support in Hindu mythology. To mention one, Bhima lived-in with Hidimba and had a son with her by the name Ghatotkach, who later fought for the Pandavas and was always considered a legitimate son of Bhima.Does it mean that they fall in the grey area between legal and illegal? In other words, is it so that the Indian society and its political alter ego - the Indian State - do not approve of pre-marital sex and live-ins but still tolerate their existence? Much of the hue and cry against live-ins is the byproduct of a misplaced sense of culture and decency. After all, marriages are nothing but socially endorsed live-in arrangements.
Money is never an easy subject to address, especially in a romantic relationship. If it's a live-in then it's even worse. But friction does happen over managing money, deciding whether an expense is a necessity or a luxury, if both partners should be equal contributors, if the one who is contributing more should have a greater say in matters of money? Questions are too many. But the biggest one of them is: can it break a couple, in spite of them being in love otherwise? What do you think?
Me and my partner are thinking of having a child. We are in a live-in. Is it a wise decision?
I have a friend who is currently living in with his girlfriend in an apartment in Delhi. They are office mates and has been living together for at least 3 years. Now my friend's parents are coming to visit him and he has no other way than admitting that he is in a live-in relationship. His family is very conservative and he is afraid of the consequences. Is there any other way?
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