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How can you be stuck? As your grow, you make better life decisions. We shouldn't get married as a matter of course, but because we need healthy, strong relationships. That is more important than your statistical age!
First of all marrying someone in haste wouldn't turn out as it should. So stop worrying. People get married after 30s also and the marriages are mostly successful because both the spouses are mature enough and settled quite well in their lives. So, marrying at 30+ is not that bad a decision. Arranged marriage and love marriage both depends upon the compatibility of the partners . So doesn't matter how you get married and when you get married but it's important is what you do to make the marriage successful.
I feel you should only consider marriage if you yourself are wanting to get married, not because others tell you it's the right time. It's a big commitment and it needs work even when two people love each other insanely.
Of course you should meet people, either through family or by yourself (if you are looking to find a companion) because you might meet someone who might make you want to get married. But the only reason you should get married, I think, is if you want to. No other reason justifies it and as Nayantara said, it's not fair to your spouse.
If you are getting married because of age or social pressure, go into it with that understanding and awareness.
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A friend of mine says that her husband helps her with chores only if she agrees not to discuss the same in his family, he is OK lending her support but no one should know, especially his mom. What is shameful in letting the world know that a husband cares for his wife?
They say we meet parts of 'Self' we don't even know about when in close relationships. I understood that I lie to myself convincingly and believe in my lie with all my heart. But through him, with what I experience (which mocks my lie unabashedly to my face) I know how I trick my own Self. Share something about you?
There are these two men I feel jealous about, the way my wife chats with them in parties. I know nothing more will happen, it's just party fun, but still can't help watching out for where she is when they are in the same party. Help please.
Marriages are made in heaven, but they are lived here on earth. What makes a good, fulfilled marriage? How far do couples travel along, hand in hand, to reach this state?
How does one define intimacy? I feel that sometimes the simple act of holding hands can be very intimate.
Why is there a stereotyping of the husband as a henpecked man with a roving eye and living in fear of the spouse and the wife always as a nagging overbearing woman? I have noticed majority of jokes, cartoons etc shared among married friends revolve around this perception. Infact, if you have noticed the comedy element of most Indian movies, regardless of language, it also is based on the same theme.
Why do men shy away from relationship discussions?
Can't help feeling jealous
Why do men think that helping the wife is shameful or makes them henpecked?
What have I learnt about myself through my spouse!
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