What's the recourse if a man finds cyber-sex including porn more engaging than the real one with his spouse?

Will it be considered infidelity if a man enjoys cyber-sex and porn more sexually pleasing and exciting than the real one with his spouse? What's the recourse for the same if marital sex has turned too mundane and internet fills in the gap?


 

You cannot put cyber sex and porn into the same category. Though they are availabe on the same medium, the procedures and consequences of the two can differ very much.

Cyber sex is just sex done over the internet. But porn, is a medium of arousal or reaching orgasm.

 

What you have asked is defined by addiction by many people. Though several sexologists may differ on the definition, they will agree that its like a fetish. A lot of people prefer Hentai over regular porn with real people.

 

Is there something wrong with them? No. 

 

Sex comes with fetishes and kinks and some of them might sound strange (Scat Sex for an example) or even bonkers, but they do provide satisfaction to the people who practise those. So what you are asking here perhaps is about a fetish where a person requires stumulation via a screen.

 

In my opinion as long as that man's partner knows about it and is okay with it, he is fine!

 

And as far as the 'recourse' goes, I would suggest the man to include his partner while watching porn or live cam models. It might come as a shock to his partner, but people do ease up to porn once they find out the kind of porn they like. He can try to find the kind of porn his partner likes and then take it from there.

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Use porn to improve sex life.

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Swapnil Narendra:

YES !

You see it depends. It is all conscience . Whether it is infidelity or not you ask yourself and introspect. If you feel ok , go ahead if not stay quiet. Affairs happen for various reasons. Unhappiness is the main reason , followed by boredom, lack of sexual satisfaction, revenge or being under the influence of alcohol. In this stage, the person is vulnerable to feeling sexual attraction for someone who is not his or her partner in order to fill the emptiness. Sometimes an emotional connection is enough to make the person develop strong feelings for someone new.

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