Can friction over money break a couple despite love?

Money is never an easy subject to address, especially in a romantic relationship. If it's a live-in then it's even worse. But friction does happen over managing money, deciding whether an expense is a necessity or a luxury, if both partners should be equal contributors, if the one who is contributing more should have a greater say in matters of money? Questions are too many. But the biggest one of them is: can it break a couple, in spite of them being in love otherwise? What do you think?


Yea it can. But that depends on the way money issues are handled. Maybe have a pool, in which each contribute what they can. Then it is shared money. As for necessity or luxury. Maybe each can have their way alternatively every few months and keep themselves and the other in check. 

  • Raisha
  • Posted: 10 Apr 2017

Money is an energy that can be created or conserved. Attaining comfort with the resultant of the energy called money is more important.


How to spend or save money can be one of the many contentious issues in a marriage. The obvious reason is that the couple differs in what money means to them – the pleasure in the things it can buy (what to spend it on) or the feel of stability it provides (savings). When these pleasures or stability factors are critical to either of them, it can trigger deep dissonance. The less obvious reason is that while we are capable of managing plenty of differences, it depends on our readiness to manage these. If the marriage already carries deep dissonance, money simply becomes an additional factor and can even be the last straw on the camel’s back.


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