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Money is an energy that can be created or conserved. Attaining comfort with the resultant of the energy called money is more important.
How to spend or save money can be one of the many contentious issues in a marriage. The obvious reason is that the couple differs in what money means to them – the pleasure in the things it can buy (what to spend it on) or the feel of stability it provides (savings). When these pleasures or stability factors are critical to either of them, it can trigger deep dissonance. The less obvious reason is that while we are capable of managing plenty of differences, it depends on our readiness to manage these. If the marriage already carries deep dissonance, money simply becomes an additional factor and can even be the last straw on the camel’s back.
Absolutely not. I don't know what the scenes for married couple are, but coming from a family of love marriages all around me, I never saw any money-related fights in the family. Taking my parents' example, my mother comes from one of the richest families in my city (her grandpa was a Member of Parliament), and she married a 'commoner'. The kind of luxury she was brought up in, she didn't get it at her in laws'. There was never an issue because of that.But coming to my generation, I myself had been in a live in relationship for a while. Honestly, money was never an issue. We both had our jobs, and while I was the careless spender and couldn't save a penny, my guy was the saving type. Every month after I would spend my entire salary, I could only take care of the necessities with the remaining money towards the end of the month. And my guy would pamper me with all the things I label as 'luxury'.. So, you see, the bottomline is, you need to have that kind of understanding with your partner and it depends upon the 2 people whether or not they want money to be a deciding factor for their happiness.I gave two examples where money never played a role in deciding the happiness of the couple. Rest, you decide. :)
But coming to my generation, I myself had been in a live in relationship for a while. Honestly, money was never an issue. We both had our jobs, and while I was the careless spender and couldn't save a penny, my guy was the saving type. Every month after I would spend my entire salary, I could only take care of the necessities with the remaining money towards the end of the month. And my guy would pamper me with all the things I label as 'luxury'.. So, you see, the bottomline is, you need to have that kind of understanding with your partner and it depends upon the 2 people whether or not they want money to be a deciding factor for their happiness.
I gave two examples where money never played a role in deciding the happiness of the couple. Rest, you decide. :)
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You think too much!
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I just wanted to know what do people out here think about live-ins. I have always wondered what it would be like to live with my boyfriend. I mean, to live like a married couple, without getting married. Do you think it takes away from the beauty and fun that marriage brings? Marriage allows you the time and space to discover each other and live-in can perhaps dull that effect? Views, please.
Inspite of all the laws that have been passed by the court, live-in is much frowned upon in India still. What is your opinion about it? Is it good/bad/ugly to live-in with your partner? And what about keeping your parents in the know?
It might be a matter of debate whether Lord Krishna and Radha lived together or not, but live-in relationships find ample support in Hindu mythology. To mention one, Bhima lived-in with Hidimba and had a son with her by the name Ghatotkach, who later fought for the Pandavas and was always considered a legitimate son of Bhima.Does it mean that they fall in the grey area between legal and illegal? In other words, is it so that the Indian society and its political alter ego - the Indian State - do not approve of pre-marital sex and live-ins but still tolerate their existence? Much of the hue and cry against live-ins is the byproduct of a misplaced sense of culture and decency. After all, marriages are nothing but socially endorsed live-in arrangements.
Me and my partner are thinking of having a child. We are in a live-in. Is it a wise decision?
I have a friend who is currently living in with his girlfriend in an apartment in Delhi. They are office mates and has been living together for at least 3 years. Now my friend's parents are coming to visit him and he has no other way than admitting that he is in a live-in relationship. His family is very conservative and he is afraid of the consequences. Is there any other way?
Commitment phobia is one the rise. It's not rare to find a couple agreeing to Live-in for financial prudence. Physical gratification is an added lure. Sometimes, sex is the primary driver. Is Live-in just a convenient compromise?
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