Should I stay or should I walk away? How?

What do you do when your extended family simply refuses to let you walk away, while you have walked away from each other a long time back? How do you tackle this?


It's your personal decision. If you can't make the family understand, if they can't or don't want to understand, you just have to resign yourself to it and do what is in your own interest.


Being in touch with your ex's family is difficult but welcoming. Although you cant expect once to be in the relationship just because his family wants you to.

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  • Posted: 09 May 2016

I think the families and friends of someone getting divorced need to be open minded, and think with their hearts, versus instinctively jumping to the conclusion that the person who is divorcing their loved one is evil and deserves to be dumped. No one knows what went on in a divorcing couple’s home. Even if it’s your very best friend, or your son, or your sister, you really don’t know. What you know is what that person told you. You have one side. That said, being upset with the soon-to-be ex, and having feelings of hatred or blame or anger is acceptable and very understandable. But just for a second, remember that you took your soon-to-be ex-brother-in-law or son-in-law or daughter-in-law into your family. So, now that it’s over, do you truly want that person out of your life? Does he or she mean nothing to you?


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