Falling in Love with a Married Man is not easy. A friend of mine is in such a relationship and she is judged by all. Why is always the women accused and blamed for?

Falling in Love with a Married Man is not easy. A friend of mine is in such a relationship and she is judged by all. Why is always the women accused and blamed for?


 

V all judge people .  Suppose u c a person killing another one..... naturally u will judge the killer. right???? Now u may ask can u equate it with a woman falling in.love with a married man.  My answer is YES.....I dont want 2 b a pseudo intellectual here and glorify adultery as something progressive.  My attitute is "Live ur life to the fullest but dont hurt any1 miserably and about "why to judge immediately..... bcos the emotions of an innocent wife is getting hurt.  I judge in that way.  If the married man is having an open relation with his wife....then its a different case...but otherwise it is really horrible to hurt some1 in this way.  The husband betrayed his wife.  and the other woman is a partner in it.  The wife has to go through lots of pain, sufferings, depression....and lots more.   The worst part is that ITS NOT ACTUALLY THE HUSBAND OR THE OTHER WOMAN WHO IS BEING JUDGED THE MOST...BUT THE POOR INNOCENT WIFE.  She is taunted the most by the society...I have seen that how people say .....like.. .Its bcos wife is fat / dark ....or busy in her job.....list is endless.  

  • Anonymous
  • Posted: 24 Apr 2017
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Cupid's arrow has myriad hues. It does not distinguish between caste, colour or creed. Or the marital status of the target, for that matter. The arrow hits at a time and person of its choosing, often catching both the archer and the victim unawares.Getting involved with a married person has its own problems. Some of the theoretical reasons for a married person wavering are: (1) Marital disharmony (2) Physical attraction to another person (3) aura of financial grandeur (4) No reason at all...it just happens! Having said that, involvement with a married man for a woman is generally frought with dangers, the most common being abandonment. Unless the force of attraction is so strong that it compels the man to jettison his marriage, he will not break away from a legal relationship. On the other hand, if he is willing to leave his wife for you, no guarantees he may not do the same to you later in life. My advice....leave him alone if you can. Or be prepared for any consequence later on in life. I have witnessed many lives being ruined because one was not able to control one's emotions. Take care!

 

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Neeti Singh:

Quite detailed and indeed helpful. I think you are absolutely right... Thanks for the insight..

MARRIED MEN R ALSO JUDGED. ACTUALLY ITS THEIR FAULT COMPLETLY WHEN THEY R HAVING AN AFFAIR OUTSIDE MARRIAGE. BUT THAT DOESNT MEAN THAT THE OTHER WOMAN IS COMPLETLY NAIVE. SHE IS ALSO TO  B BLAMED. IF U QUANTIFY IN PERCENTAGE ....ITS 60:40 MISTAKE OF BOTH MAN AND OTHER WOMAN.  THEN ABOUT UR QUESTION  Y IS SHE BEING JUDGED BY THE SOCIETY.  ANSWER IS.... BECAUSE SHE IS HURTING THE EMOTIONS OF AN INNOCENT WOMAN.  PERSONALLY IN MY VIEW, I RESPECT PROSTITUTES BUT LOOK DOWN UPON THESE WOMEN WHO GO AFTER MARRIED MAN IN THE NAME OF LOVE

  • Anonymous
  • Posted: 21 Apr 2017
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Neeti Singh:

Why to judge immideately? Why to blame anybody??

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