I don't earn. Should I be ok with my boyfriend paying for fancy dinners though I'm not comfortable?

I have been dating for five months now. The guy earns decent while I am still unemployed. My feminist values don't let him pay for my stuff but at the same time I cannot afford to go to all these places and fancy dinners with him. What should I do ?


There's nothing to be uncomfortable about... you can always start paying when you start earning...

If he is paying means he is ready to take your responsibility which is a good thing!


Letting your partner pay for your stuff does not imply that you are an anti-feminist. when you land into a job you too could buy things for him as a token of gratitude. After all, couples are meant to look out for each other during not so great times.

  • jenny
  • Posted: 25 Aug 2016

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