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I think you also have to understand the other side to this. Younger men dating older women. And it needn't be for favours or sex, but as genuine connection. It is possible that age is increasingly becoming redundant in relationships. And with the huge exposure the media and internet provides, people of disparate age groups may develop a bond.
As the previous reply has noted, it could definitely be more than physical intimacy. They could be searching for something emotional as well. Perhaps something their husbands aren't providing them with. Gender dynamics are changing. Often times, when men go for mistresses, it isn't only about sex necessarily. As women has become financially independent, they demand more from their partners. Which is not to say infidelity should be excused. Also, for single older women as well, a younger guy brought up in the newer gender dynamics may seem like a better partner than an older man still holding onto entrenched patriarchy.
I think we have missed out on another aspect of this. Older single women, DATING younger single guys. I don't think it's just about sex. Older, successful women are more vibrant, more energetic and they like those qualities reflected in the man they are dating. There's been a shift in what women want as well - today, women also want well-groomed, fit, attractive partners. I am not saying men their age aren't. It's just that it's tougher to find single men in that age bracket. Besides, older men could be more jaded by life - younger men, often, by virtue of the fact that they have had lesser exposure, and thereby, lesser baggage, could come across as more fun. There are older women who want precisely that in a partner - fun, spontaneity and yes, if he's fitter and attractive, that's definitely a plus. We don't bat an eyelid when a Donald Trump marries a Melania. I think women deserve the same freedom.
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How would/did you change your bedroom after marriage?
Why do men shy away from relationship discussions?
You think too much!
Why do men think that helping the wife is shameful or makes them henpecked?
Can't help feeling jealous
Is emotional infidelity at par with physical infidelity? Which hurts more?
Is it wrong to get attracted to someone while you're in a happy relationship?
Should I feel guilty if I feel attracted to someone while I am in a happy relationship? Does that amount to cheating?
It has been seven long years and I still cannot get it out of mind that people can listen to us have sex!
Today's headline in TOI where wife is taking husband to the court for watching porn in excess is quite an eye opener. what is the experience of couples about watching porn? How much is enough? What and who decides? Are marriages suffering due to easy availability of porn on the Net??
Sexual chemistry (& physics & geography) :) is vital to a marriage. However, in a relationship if the couple is at odds regarding the frequency, the variety, the grammar, the syntax, the vocabulary...... can it still script a fairy tale marriage?
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