Why do men shy away from relationship discussions?

I find that women find it easy to talk about partners, men like to keep mum? Is it that they do not feel as much or they just think it is strictly private business?


I think men themselves are not sure what they are feeling. and when they do know, they are afraid of coming out as an emotional cry baby and that won't go with their macho personality. that is why most wives cry because their husbands are unable to express themselves or avoid relationship issues. 

somewhere women are to be blamed too. we think it's our responsibility to feel everything and we feel enough for the both. think about it if a single girl is approached by a caring say-everything- on-the -face kind of person then he would be marked as gay and if the same guy approaches as aloof or sturdy then he will be an eye catcher. 

men love to express when they do know what they are feeling. it's just the fear of coming out as not so manly I think.



Hi Rupali,

'we think it's our responsibility to feel everything and we feel enough for the both', what an observation. Yes, we somehow end up taking thier thing on us....thanks for this viewpoint! 

Men are from Mars, after all, and their responses are bound to be different. Most men have been brought up to keep a stiff upper lip and not show their emotions. Maybe this is what makes them less impulsive and more constrained as far as such discussions go. It is not that they feel less; it is just that they express less!



Deepti, I do feel that somehow men also hmmmm can compartmentalize things more...and thus in a way do feel less! My pov...:)

I've found men to be a lot more guarded about their relationships. Women are more open. Especially among friends. That's just how the genders work I guess. Men are also raised to keep their problems to themselves and not share much. Although I've known many men who discuss any relationship issues with people they trust, and many women who keep matters to themselves. 



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