Why do men think that helping the wife is shameful or makes them henpecked?

A friend of mine says that her husband helps her with chores only if she agrees not to discuss the same in his family, he is OK lending her support but no one should know, especially his mom. What is shameful in letting the world know that a husband cares for his wife?


it's not about the shame. it's more about the image. not every guy helps his wife but those who do want to keep it hush or their family or friends may think of them as "joru ka ghulam". you know that he loves you when he helps you in the kitchen but the same thing may be frowned upon by his friends and family. just because he is a man. 

and besides think about it, if his mother fond out that he helps you, her precious little boy helping you in household chores she would hate you more than she already does.


There is no shame attached to it. I think its high time that he takes a stand and be vocal about his assistance in the household chores. Times have changed and his parents should also be made aware of the fact. It is sheepish to act like a 'male' figure in front of his parents and be pretentious behind them. It is completely okay to perform household work as it will not rob him of him of his masculinity.


what is the importan help or way of helping Some time its difficult to explain to some people for example his mother, guy want to help her that is more important might be he is trying to balance relations

Nothing is shameful in helping the wife it'll increase bonding in relationship

  • Ronak
  • Posted: 10 Apr 2017

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