How do I start to think of my husband's income as our income?

I was working for more than seven years before getting married and moving countries. I had to quit my job in the process and have no earnings of my own. It's true that partners contribute to the marriage in ways other than money, but having been independent for so long, I'm unable to spend my husband's money as my own, even on essentials. Do I need to get over it, and if yes, how?


Try bringing something else to the table, which will add value to yourself and your relationship. Not everything needs to be a quid pro quo in a partnership. Money is just one factor. And if being financially independent is really that crucial, then look for a job. Even something small to cover your daily expenses. Losing confidence in oneself reflects negatively on any relationship.

  • Mayank
  • Posted: 03 Sep 2016

I think with us independent women our sense of independence comes majorly from being able to spend our own money and that is why we shy away from accepting any money from any other person. But the thing is when we get married we are choosing to let our husbands be responsible for us just as our parents were before getting married. I believe when your husband wants you to accept his money and spend it is because its his way of showing his responsibilities towards you I don't think you should feel bad about it at all. There is no way you are letting go of your individuality or independence when you choose to spend that money.


Shahnaaz: That is true I guess. It is a partnership. Thanks for the reply!

Yes , It happens because you were independent before marriage , feel a void , share your views with your husband. Hope he will understand. No point of regret or something like that . Just share with him.


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