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I totally understand what you mean as most of us go through this after marriage. Generally, we are comfortable telling our parents about our children but when it comes to us and our spouse, we hesitate and lie. That I think is because as partners, we might be influenced by the other, accept their practices but if our parents get to know about this, they might get upset. They might not be able to accept the "vices" and might instead blame themselves and be unhappy. So, to protect them, we tend to lead different lives and lie to them. According to me, this is completely fine because our circumstances are very different from theirs and we have adapted to the practices followed by our generation, our peers. A little lie doesnt hurt :)
Transparency always works better. Try and be as honest as you can.
There will always be things we may hide from our parents. As adults we need to think of how our actions reflect on our children. What would you want your children to do in such a situation? And no matter how forgiving you may be of them, remember generation gaps will always exist. Perhaps how you are as a parent can help you decide the actions you take as the child.
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