Friends with Benefits

Is it rational for someone to be in a friends with benefits relationship? How logical to have sex with somebody and still opt out of any emotional bonding? And, what if one of the partners end up developing attachment with the other partner?


When I began my marriage, I had resolved that I would be a one woman man and that I would not stray. I also resolved that my wife would be my first and only girlfriend. But, after seven years of living together, we had a terrible breakup (something which she wanted) and I was left high and dry. All my resolutions were thrown out of the window. Since then I have not had the courage to approach any female for friendship, leave alone having a sexual relationship with her.

  • Harish
  • Posted: 24 Dec 2016

Why one opts for such a scenario should be considered as well. Is it because they do not want to commit in general, or to that person in particular ? It could be a rebound for either or both? Nothing is really rational in such situations, but the most the people involved can do is know why they're in it and where to draw the line.

  • Rohini
  • Posted: 14 Sep 2016

It is important for both the parties to be on the same page before, during and after this "relationship" has taken flight. Then, I guess everything should remain in order..

  • Meghna
  • Posted: 14 Sep 2016

AyushmaanChatterjee: It's also important to land on the same page too

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