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It was in the past, but I was pretty overwhelmed when the single bed became double. A dressing table got added in my compact room, and suddenly I was seeing my full body instead of seeing only my face in the bathroom mirror. "Do I look fat?" I'd always think. She must have made adjustments of her own. She never expressed any inconvenience . That's how she was, supportive, generally happy that she has me as her husband. How times change!
Everyone knows how a bachelor's room looks like and my room was no different. My wardrobe was totally messed up and the walls were full of posters. There was not much wood work, no dressing place and not even a mirror. The door even refused to close. So it is quite obvious that before marriage, I had to get a lot of work done. I consulted a designer. The woodwork was totally re-done and extra wardrobe and a dressing place was created with special lights. Walls were decorated with a textured paint and in the favourite colour of my would be wife. Special curtains were ordered and offcouse a brand new door was installed. It was a totally new room after the renovation work was finished. It it still more or less the same after so many years of marriage. From the pictures of old room, no one believes that it is the same room.
A crucial thing in a marriage is to give each other space literally! !Bedroom is that part of the house where the two of us have to share the space as well. Thus it is important to give the bedroom a makeover which would constantly remind us of the bigger change in our lives. Before moving in with my husband we hired an interior designer and discussed about our likes and dislikes. .comforts and discomforts and she did the room accordingly.We segregated our places, wardrobes and drawers in the room.My place had a window..his an a.c.My wardrobes had lots of drawers his a few shelves.My drawers remain organised even after 3 years of wedding and a child..his were all stuffed in right from day one. We don't intervene in each others physical space but to keep the harmony of our room which is a reflection of our marriage we together keep it tidy.
Bedroom is that part of the house where the two of us have to share the space as well. Thus it is important to give the bedroom a makeover which would constantly remind us of the bigger change in our lives.
Before moving in with my husband we hired an interior designer and discussed about our likes and dislikes. .comforts and discomforts and she did the room accordingly.
We segregated our places, wardrobes and drawers in the room.
My place had a window..his an a.c.
My wardrobes had lots of drawers his a few shelves.
My drawers remain organised even after 3 years of wedding and a child..his were all stuffed in right from day one.
We don't intervene in each others physical space but to keep the harmony of our room which is a reflection of our marriage we together keep it tidy.
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How would/did you change your bedroom after marriage?
Why do men shy away from relationship discussions?
Why do men think that helping the wife is shameful or makes them henpecked?
You think too much!
Can't help feeling jealous
A friend of mine says that her husband helps her with chores only if she agrees not to discuss the same in his family, he is OK lending her support but no one should know, especially his mom. What is shameful in letting the world know that a husband cares for his wife?
They say we meet parts of 'Self' we don't even know about when in close relationships. I understood that I lie to myself convincingly and believe in my lie with all my heart. But through him, with what I experience (which mocks my lie unabashedly to my face) I know how I trick my own Self. Share something about you?
There are these two men I feel jealous about, the way my wife chats with them in parties. I know nothing more will happen, it's just party fun, but still can't help watching out for where she is when they are in the same party. Help please.
Like is it important matching kundalis in a love marriage. When we have already decided to spend life together then why should kundali act as a barrier..?????
Marriages are made in heaven, but they are lived here on earth. What makes a good, fulfilled marriage? How far do couples travel along, hand in hand, to reach this state?
Why does it feel impossible to find a sensible groom for an educated girl once she is above 35? Introductions via online marriage portals never seem to go to the next step other than the basic hello - are the men really not interested or do they get scared listening to an opinionated voice! Does it all have to be about cooking and traditional homely girl?
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