My husband cheated on me

My husband of 7 years cheated on me two years ago and we separated. Now he is all apologetic and wants us to get back together. I am not sure if I have forgiven him yet. But I don't know what to do. We have a 5 year old daughter, who loves her father and was just beginning to move on without him around. Please help!


Once a cheat, always a cheat. If he can cheat on you and get separated then believe me he doesn't want you back. I am not a big believer of Karma but that's how it should work. He wasn't there for his wife and daughter for 2 years then why try to be back now. Stay strong. Love the ones who love you back equally.

  • Anuj
  • Posted: 20 Sep 2016

You have got to be kidding me! I really find it amusing that you would even consider taking a cheating husband back. I know you have the well being of your daughter in mind, but really she is better off without a father who is a cheating man. And anyway, she has begun moving on from him. So, please do yourself and your growing daughter a favour and stay away from a loose character. You have a long, fulfilling life ahead and you definitely deserve better! Who knows, if you take him back, he might cheat on you again and at that time the damage done to you emotionally will be far greater than now.

  • Deepti
  • Posted: 20 Sep 2016

The main thing is that what you want Raisha dear. It's good to think about your child but not at the sacrifice of your values of life. Life is not about always adjustments. IF you feel convinced that your husband is really sorry for what he had done 7 years back & you think by giving a second chance to him you can bring back all happiness in your child's life then go for it because everyone should get a second chance. But if you aren't fully convinced with his apology give it some more time ,take some more time to think about instead of patching things back together because it's not only about your child it's your life too. It's better the child isn't included in this discussion because she is too small to think what's going on around. Better you think upon it & take the decision as a whole on behalf of you & your child.The rest will follow. It's better you take some time go slow & then come out with a firm opinion which you think won't hurt your self-respect & even your child future and love of her for her father. Be strong.....

  • joyee
  • Posted: 19 Sep 2016

Rohini: Thank you for your kind words. I think taking it slow is the best option. I will let him into our lives again slowly, and see if he truly is sorry and willing to work on our family.

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