How does one know about physical compatibility in an arranged marriage before the wedding?

If this is known one could reduce the "sex has become routine & hence boring" phase or "having an affair" phase post marriage??


Seriously, this thought has always creeped me out about arranged marriages. This is such a major risk! And it's not just about sexual compatibility, it's also about sexual hygiene, STDs, must feel free to be able to discuss all of these issues beforehand and quite openly..

  • Roshan
  • Posted: 21 Sep 2016

One doesn't. It's really like diving in the dark. But what can help is talking and helping the other person understand as the marriage progresses. If there is attraction and emotional bonding, sexual chemistry can be worked upon, in my opinion.

  • Mayank
  • Posted: 20 Sep 2016

That is one of the major drawbacks of an arranged marriage. But, then you have to explore your partner and yourself in the bed. What he likes and what he doesn't and what do you want from him and what you don't. Anyone can be physically compatible if you let them be. So, yeah it's a journey with a stranger which will start at night and you have to hold each other's 'hand' to know each other better by the time morning comes. ;)

  • Anuj
  • Posted: 20 Sep 2016

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