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Seriously, this thought has always creeped me out about arranged marriages. This is such a major risk! And it's not just about sexual compatibility, it's also about sexual hygiene, STDs, etc..one must feel free to be able to discuss all of these issues beforehand and quite openly..
One doesn't. It's really like diving in the dark. But what can help is talking and helping the other person understand as the marriage progresses. If there is attraction and emotional bonding, sexual chemistry can be worked upon, in my opinion.
That is one of the major drawbacks of an arranged marriage. But, then you have to explore your partner and yourself in the bed. What he likes and what he doesn't and what do you want from him and what you don't. Anyone can be physically compatible if you let them be. So, yeah it's a journey with a stranger which will start at night and you have to hold each other's 'hand' to know each other better by the time morning comes. ;)
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How would/did you change your bedroom after marriage?
Why do men shy away from relationship discussions?
Why do men think that helping the wife is shameful or makes them henpecked?
You think too much!
Can't help feeling jealous
Alone and Single at 50! Do we really need a partner for our later years or we can just about go through the remaining years just as easily?
A friend chats with young men, men about 10 years her junior but I see that she is the happiest of the lot amongst us. We are all righteous but angry all the time.
Top 3 priorities of a long term marriage
Should a spouse not active and passionate in relationship, object to partner being in another relationship ?
Can a man and a woman remain friends even after marriage?
Why are older women falling on Younger guys for fulfillment of their desires ? Somehow they are often not sexually attracted to their husbands, desire is temporarily rekindled when they suspect their husbands are unfaithful, are contemplating infidelity, or when their husbands show signs of moving on. The vacuum created due to work pressures between them. Sometimes women married for couple of years to the same person have a stronger temptation and they go in for a bit of a change in their lifestyle to experiment their libidos. Life is temporary , so let us give it a try is the motto . Infidelity is no more a sin . Of Course we are seeing from ancient scriptures . The Question is " Is there something beyond sex and lust ?
Is emotional infidelity at par with physical infidelity? Which hurts more?
Is it wrong to get attracted to someone while you're in a happy relationship?
Should I feel guilty if I feel attracted to someone while I am in a happy relationship? Does that amount to cheating?
It has been seven long years and I still cannot get it out of mind that people can listen to us have sex!
Today's headline in TOI where wife is taking husband to the court for watching porn in excess is quite an eye opener. what is the experience of couples about watching porn? How much is enough? What and who decides? Are marriages suffering due to easy availability of porn on the Net??
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