My husband gets verbally abusive when angry. Is that acceptable?

Ours was an arranged marriage but we are in love. My husband however tends to lose his mind every time we have an argument. He indulges in wxtensive verbal abuse with me. He says it is all in the heat of the moment. He does apologise for it all later but when he gets aggressive, he forgets everything else and bad mouths me. Is that acceptable? Please advise guys. Thanks.


Verbal abuse is emotional violence and even the Domestic Violence Act considers it illegal. Your husband needs anger therapy. If you live someone, getting angry is not an excuse to lash out at them. Please talk to him when he is calm that he needs to manage his anger to not harm the relationship.


Why argue, if it results in his losing his mind ? Think. Ask yourself if you are contributing to his drawing newer limits of indecent behaviour ? Ask yourself, can you keep quiet and avoid worsening of the situation ?


Does he do this only when alone or in company as well? Try and get someone he trusts to show him the error in his ways. Maybe a friend or a sibling. Especially before children come into the picture and this abuse starts seeming like a normal part of marriage


Deepti: You are right Nayantara, but I find it humiliating to discuss something so intimate with our family tr friends circle. It just makes me cringe to disclose our personal matters to the public.

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