Is your relationship heading towards an end?

Best-selling author Preeti Shenoy decodes the ominous signs in this short and insightful piece

Preeti Shenoy | Posted on 24 Apr 2016
How to tell when a relationship is over

‘How do you know when it’s over?’
‘Maybe when you feel more in love with your memories than with the person standing in front of you’ 

- Gunnar Ardelius, from the book, I Need You More Than I Love You and I Love You to Bits

I came across the above quote and thought it was beautiful. It led me to think, how would you really know it is over? Maybe this is how:

If you are constantly thinking about how good it used to be, maybe it is time to rethink your relationship.

If you are always thinking about someone else even when you are with your spouse/partner, then that is a sign too.

If you are fighting over and over again, about the same things with no end in sight, maybe that is an indication too.

If you feel no spark or joy at the thought of being with them, chances are, it is over.

And finally if the thought of life without them in it seems as a welcome relief - then it is definitely over.

But don’t make a final conclusion yet. Move away. Give it space. And time. Sometimes that is all what a relationship needs.


And sometimes, that brings closure.



Preeti Shenoy

Preeti Shenoy is among the top five highest selling authors in India and is also on the Forbes longlist of the most influential celebrities in India.She has a very popular blog and she also writes a weekly column in The Financial Chronicle. Her other interests are travel, photography and Ashtanga yoga.

Comments : 2

Tina Acharya: And finally if the thought of life without them in it seems as a welcome relief - then it is definitely over....indeed a great observation. Preeti Shenoy herself is a great writer. great read.

Team Bonobology: The best way to create a relationship built on love, trust, and intimacy is to take responsibility for your own actions and to practice acceptance and compassion for your partner. The truth is that all couples have problems, even the ones who seem like a perfect match. The thing to keep in mind is that realistic expectations and damage control can keep resentment from building and causing serious relationship problems.


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