Finding real friendship online

They've never met in real life but have built a strong friendship on the Internet

Bineesh Balakrishnan | Posted on 05 Dec 2016
Time to read: 2 min
Finding real friendship online | Bonobology

It all started off while chatting on Facebook. She liked the way I sang (I find it hard not to sing while chatting, my constant urge reinvigorated by a scientific paper which claimed singing often is good for life), I liked her simple amicable nature.

She told me that her exams were soon approaching. I guided her how to study, what to omit, and of course the age-old advice of ‘take it easy’!

Her exams went smoothly, and we chatted more often. There was a connection, and we both knew it. Somehow our souls were destined to collide, and we were meant to be ‘amigos’! So as destined, we started off talking about our choice of movies, our favourite music, and so on….

She mentioned how Eric Clapton’s songs grow on you, and I suggested a few songs that she hadn’t tried out (by David Gray, Dave Matthews’ Band, and so on). Needless to say, the friendship grew stronger with each chat session. We became e-buddies! We’d greet each other every morning, pull each other’s legs, and discuss everything from how sick society can be to world peace.

She sent me pictures of her cooking experiments, and honestly, her experiments would be awarded the Nobel culinary prize, if there ever was such a thing! She has a pet dog that she loves deeply (which you can see by the way she refers to the canine soul!). She has an open mind, and can grasp at least a bit of my poetry, and philosophy. She knows enough of North Indian slang to keep up with me, and I teach her a word or two of foreign languages whenever I can (so far I’ve taught her the meaning of ‘enchante’, ‘manana’).

My life has opened up a lot in the last 3 months since we became e-buddies. In life I’ve had really good enemies, and really bad friends, and needless to say both these classes of souls have taught me a lot about life.

The word friend originated from the Old English freond, of Germanic origin; related to Dutch vriend and German Freund, from an Indo-European root meaning ‘to love’.

About a week or so ago, I told her about my wish to write a book. She guaranteed it would work out just fine, and asked me to give her a copy once it was finished. Even if I don’t talk to her, reading through our previous chat sessions keeps our friendship alive.

Our relationship made me ponder, whether, like the soul mate theory, there is a theory that states that two perfect strangers are destined to enter each other’s lives and eventually their friendship will make both their lives bodacious!

I wouldn’t mind propounding such a theory, because this experience is more than enough evidence for such a theory. I’m sure in the near future, some wise scientist or mystic will work to this end (if somebody hasn’t already!)

I’m deeply indebted to the Internet. It helped me find help when I was victimised and isolated, it helped me grow, and it also gifted me this awesome relationship. I’d like to hang out in real life with my friend, but even if we can’t (because spreading slander is second nature to society), I’m sure this friendship will go a long way…

 

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