12 things you should know when dating an introvert

Angelina Gupta
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If you are dating an introvert, then it is probably the mystery that attracted you towards him/her. Introverts have a silent charm that automatically draws people towards them. You are automatically driven towards unveiling what’s inside the person. Being in a relationship with an introvert is not as easy as it sounds. There are things that your partner will not tell you upfront and you will have to understand and figure them out.

12 things you should know when in a relationship with an introvert

If you are an extrovert dating an introvert, then let me tell you, there are many things that are going to go opposite to what you expect. There could be misunderstandings, unmet expectations, arguments, hurt, pain and many other things that can harm your relationship. There are some personality traits of an introvert that you need to know to properly understand him or her while you are in a relationship with one.

Dating an introvert could be one of the best fairy tales coming true, but it could also be a nightmare if you don’t know how to handle a relationship with an introvert. Here are 12 things you should know:

1. They like to take it slow

Extroverts are upfront and outgoing, which makes them rush into things. They are comfortable with the rush. Introverts are people who put in a lot of thought into everything they do. They prefer to take things slowly and understand the person rather than showing their feelings from the beginning itself. They need a certain amount of time and space to get comfortable with the person. Once they get comfortable with their feelings, there is no going back. They will be the most romantic person you’ve ever met. Just give them the time they need.

2. Their definition of flirting is different

If you are expecting the usual punch lines or romantic expressions from them, you are not going to get them. They prefer to gaze at you while you are not watching and see the way you smile. They like to keep their compliments in their thoughts and will only give them when it is too hard for them to resist. They prefer to flirt, but in a loving way that means something more than just the typical flirting. When introverts fall in love, it is just different.

3. They are not very social

You may not call them social, but neither are they antisocial. Introverts have their times of social stimulation when they are in the mood. There is a party animal hidden inside them, but they don’t show it in front of people they don’t want to show it in front of. It is all about their mood and comfort zone. If they are in the right mind-set, they will unleash their inner beast in front of you.

4. They prefer quality time over the usual stuff

Introverts are very thoughtful people. They like to think things through and understand situations. They will any day prefer to sit with you for a deep and meaningful conversation rather than go somewhere outdoor for a date. It is because they want to know the real you and understand you at a deeper level.

5. Their way of showing love is different

Introverts show love, but in a silent and romantic way. They hate Public Display of Affection (PDA). They will prefer to keep their romantic notions inside their mind rather than telling you upfront about it. Those romantic notions will come out, but only when they are in a super romantic mood or you constantly coax them to say what’s inside their mind. Introverts do show their love, but not like everyone else.

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6. Introverts hate to be the centre of attention

If you are planning a surprise birthday party for your partner, remember not to invite too many people. Introverts hate being the centre of attention; especially in front of large crowd they are not that close to. Remember to only invite their closest friends, because that is where their comfort zone lies.

7. They are attracted to intelligence

Introverts are very picky in the kind of friends they choose and especially when it comes to their love interest. Their partner may be the exact opposite of them, but they could still get attracted to them. It is because thinking introverts are attracted to strong, bold people who have strong opinions. They are not people who will go for bimbos. They will go for people with a high intellect, even if such people are extroverts.

8. They need their alone time

If there is something that introverts love, it is their alone time. No matter how much they are in love with you, they will not compromise on their alone time. Introverts like to remain in their shell, thinking about things and contemplating them. This is how they recharge themselves. No matter how much you try to talk them into going out with you, if they feel that they need their alone time, they will have it.

9. They do love you

There will be instances where you will question their love and their feelings. But know one thing for sure, they do love you. They will be head-over-heels in love with you secretly, but would be too shy to admit i The thing with introverts is that they aren’t that good at expressing their feelings and they will expect you to know or understand through their actions. You will have to pick up the hints and amuse yourself instead of waiting for your partner to express them.

10. They are big time thinkers

Introverts live inside their heads. They keep thinking things one after the other and get lost in their own thoughts. You might be sitting right next to your partner and see him/her lost in some other thought. No. They are not thinking about any other guy/girl. It is just that their brain automatically starts thinking about random stuff.

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11. They will not open up that easily

There are many layers to an introvert and you will not see the real person within instantly. Introverts prefer to discover their partners rather than talk about themselves. They need to feel a sense of security and comfort with the person before they open up in front of them. Don’t worry if your partner isn’t sharing things with you yet. Your partner will share things with you; you just need to be patient.

12. They scare easy

Truth be told, introverts scare easy when it comes to moving forward in a relationship. If they are in a relationship with an extrovert, they will easily get scared with the pace at which the relationship is going. They prefer taking it slow and if somehow things do not go at the pace they are comfortable with, they will easily get scared and will want to move backwards again.

A relationship with an introvert isn’t a cakewalk. It requires a certain level of understanding and patience for it to work, and the results are magical. If you are dating an introvert, you can see your partner in the points above. The real thing is that you will have to be the understanding one in the relationship during the initial stages. Once your partner gets comfortable and attached to you, he/she will be the more romantic and understanding one in the relationship. But before that happens, you will need to be careful with your relationship and give it the time it needs.

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