It’s funny how men are expected to perform in bed, and yet most women don’t open up about what gives them maximum pleasure and what it is that they would rather do or not do or is a red zone for them inside a bedroom.
Here’s a list of do’s and don’ts to get the best out of your man.
1. Share your feelings
Share your feelings honestly to help him give you his best and get access to his vulnerable self.
2. Let yourself loose
Do not be afraid of being judged for your looks or body (shape and weight) or your behaviour in bed. Let yourself loose.
3. Guide him
Guide him towards your erogenous zones and express your present mood clearly: are you up for calm, soothing sex, a quickie or wild, animal sex? Speak up. Be uninhibited about what gives you maximum pleasure. Tell your man where to focus more.
You don’t want things to fall in “I didn’t know you wanted that” zone by error.
5. Know your body well
Explore your body when alone to know what gives you more pleasure. Don’t be shy to masturbate to find out what your body loves.
6. Be vocal about your desires/fantasies
What pleases you, what turns you on, what drives you horny, how much time you need for foreplay, after play and pillow talk.
7. Tell him what you want
Without fear of being rejected. Don’t expect him to understand your silence magically and fulfil you sexually.
8. Love yourself
Give yourself some self love regularly: massage, touch, feel yourself, play with yourself when alone. Stand in front of the mirror, admire yourself and explore. Experiment with your own body before you explore it with your man.
9. Know your body
The G spot and the clitoris particularly.
Read. Google. Talk to your gynaecologist or your close friends.
11. Be active in bed
Talk, perform, respond in bed. Don’t be a passive receiver but an active partner. Give back the pleasure he gives you.
12. Ask him
What he likes, what makes him feel wanted, what turns him feral and just give it to him.
Related reading: Here’s what men want in bedroom, and no it’s not what you think!
13. Make him feel desired
Look ravishing each time you come to bed and stop taking sex for granted.
Remember, good sex is all about being honest and authentic and true intimacy is all about being vulnerable. Nothing is more seductive for a man than to have an honest, vulnerable woman next to him to make love to.