Sex and Passion

13 things we all DON’T do in bed and thus miss out on great sex

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When it comes to sex, get the best out of your man

It’s funny how men are expected to perform in bed, and yet most women don’t open up about what gives them maximum pleasure and what it is that they would rather do or not do or is a red zone for them inside a bedroom.

Remember, good sex is all about being honest and authentic and true intimacy is all about being vulnerable. Nothing is more seductive for a man than to have an honest, vulnerable woman next to him to make love to.

Here’s a list of do’s and don’ts to get the best out of your man.

1. Share your feelings

Share your feelings honestly to help him give you his best and get access to his vulnerable self.

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2. Let yourself loose

Do not be afraid of being judged for your looks or body (shape and weight) or your behaviour in bed. Let yourself loose.

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3.  Guide him

Guide him towards your erogenous zones and express your present mood clearly: are you up for calm, soothing sex, a quickie or wild, animal sex?  Speak up. Be uninhibited about what gives you maximum pleasure. Tell your man where to focus more.

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4. Communicate

You don’t want things to fall in “I didn’t know you wanted that” zone by error.

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5. Know your body well

Explore your body when alone to know what gives you more pleasure. Don’t be shy to masturbate to find out what your body loves.


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6. Be vocal about your desires/fantasies

What pleases you, what turns you on, what drives you horny, how much time you need for foreplay, after play and pillow talk.

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7. Tell him what you want

Without fear of being rejected. Don’t expect him to understand your silence magically and fulfill you sexually.

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8. Love yourself

Give yourself some self love regularly: massage, touch, feel yourself, play with yourself when alone. Stand in front of the mirror, admire yourself and explore. Experiment with your own body before you explore it with your man.

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9. Know your body

The G spot and the clitoris particularly.

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10. Research

Read. Google. Talk to your gynaecologist or your close friends.

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11. Be active in bed

Talk, perform, respond in bed. Don’t be a passive receiver but an active partner. Give back the pleasure he gives you.

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12. Ask him

What he likes, what makes him feel wanted, what turns him feral and just give it to him.

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13. Make him feel desired

Look ravishing each time you come to bed and stop taking sex for granted.

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    1. Indeed a well written article. I convinced my partner to do all this and we started doing around an year ago. She is great at bed then and now, but it opens up our relationship. We are more into each other now. Its a bucket full of ideas for the people now.

    2. While one’s sex life might be great but then, yes there are things that we never talk about or we don’t seem to notice.

      Thank you so much for the piece. We actually need to take care of these things!

    3. Helpful and point to point article which will help many couples.
      Se x being a taboo in India yet explored and well informed by many women yet is not expressed.

      Thank you for the article

    4. I am happy for the article, atleast now understood why I was part of your life. For a season or a reason!

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