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4 signs that show you are in an abusive relationship

Abusive relationship

These were some insidious signs I missed in what I thought was an ordinary relationship.

I understood abuse as physical only and he never laid a finger on me! But…

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Related reading: What is abuse in a relationship?

1. Control

He would try and control me, “You knew I would be free then! Why did you make that programme?”

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Related reading: Reasons why we return to our abusive partners

2. Isolation

He isolated me: “I do not like her hair colour. She is a freak. You should stay away from her.”

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3. Possessiveness

He was possessive: “Too deep-cut. Who are you getting influenced by, honey? You were not like this!”

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Related reading: Lessons I learnt from my abusive partner

4. Name-calling

He would call me a bitch, slut, and would then apologise: “I was drunk, darling.”

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During a random browse, I saw these signs of abuse and realised I was undergoing it!

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I felt hurt, angry, very angry at myself.

Why could I not see it?

Related reading: Why I broke up with my verbally abusive boyfriend

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There are these low level forms of abuse. We do not talk about it enough and very slowly they chip away our sense of self.

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Do you think you are in an abusive relationship? Check with our counsellor today.

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