Heartbreak can only be fixed by the heartbroken person. There are actually two ways of dealing with heartbreak. One, you can decide to sulk forever and wallow in self-pity. Two, you can decide to get a grip on your life and move on. There are positive things to do after a break-up that can make you feel better.
There is no doubt that a break-up hits you in the face and you feel like you have fallen into a muddy puddle face down. But that’s the initial reaction. As the days go by you do heal gradually. In case of women they are willing to talk out their feelings with friends, family and are even willing to see a psychological counsellor. But with men it is bit different. It is said that a break-up hits men much later and they then keep grappling with their own situation for quite sometime. But both men and women learn how to live positively after a break-up and it’s with time they find peace post break-up.
7 Positive Things To Do After A Break-Up
If you have to listen to our advice then we would say there are positive things to do after a break-up (yes people end up doing a lot of silly things too that you should avoid) that will not only change the course of your life but will also help you re-invent yourself. A break-up is actually a learning experience in your life because that’s when you learn how to live positively after having your heart broken. You can discover the joys of being on your own and can do a whole lot of things to get a grip on your life all over again.
1. Go on a solo trip
Change the scenery you wake up to every day. Go on a solo trip (especially if you have never been out before). It doesn’t have to be a lavish one or a month-long trip.
It can be over the weekend to someplace nearby. Going solo lets you explore the world like you never have. It makes you independent, holds up a mirror in front of you letting you know you are strong enough.
It keeps you boosted, determined and opens vistas of spirituality. You get to reconnect with yourself and savour the experience.
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2. Do something you never thought you’d do
Never thought you could go a day without smoking? Do that. Did you think you could never go on a healthy diet? Try that as well. Challenge yourself. Push yourself. Whether it’s going for piano classes or joining yoga, whether it’s going rock climbing or getting your hair dyed orange, try those.
Doing something you had only planned to do but never had the courage to do might guarantee the push you needed to go out of your comfort zone. You are already feeling you have hit rock bottom, things will only get better from here if you just give this a shot.
3. Shut yourself off from social media
Personally, this has helped me get through my depression. Social media have their perks but for post-breakup shut-ins, there cannot be a worse enemy than social media.
Lying on your couch, flipping through your ex’s recently updated posts will leave you crazy.
Log out from Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and the numerous accounts you have spread all over the Internet. If things get hard, flip your smartphone for a phone that doesn’t support advanced technology. Like everything else, it might be a little hard to get by, but it is worth it.
4. Plan ahead
If you are more a spontaneous person, all the more reason why you should do it. Plan what you are going to do this weekend. If you have neglected your friends before, get together. Visit a relative you have not visited in a while. If you have a gem of a best friend, he/she will plan accordingly and help you keep busy.
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5. De-clutter and cleanse
The house must be in terrible shape since the breakup. You want something positive? Give the house a routine clean up. Fold the clothes and arrange the closet. Throw out the empty wine glasses and clean the dishes that have been lying in the sink for ages.
If your ex-has left his/her stuff at your place, box them up (resist the temptation to sleep in his t-shirt). All this work will keep you busy and leave you exhausted and help you get a good night’s sleep that’s been missing in your life for so long.
Even if you are not a poet, writing about your feelings is a great way to vent. You might have your best friend to listen to what you have to say but the writing is therapeutic in itself. Pen down your thoughts, emotions; and if you don’t want to write about your emotions, write how your day has been. Don’t leave out the details. Make a habit of writing before going to bed. Writing is cathartic and it will help you get over the break-up.
One of the things that you should do after a breakup is practise forgiveness. Letting go of the resentment takes a lot of self-convincing. It won’t be easy forgiving the person who broke your heart, it won’t be easy getting through the days when all you can think about is what and where your ex-did wrong. But anger is like a self-inserted dagger in your heart. Only you bleed and feel the pain.
Rip the Band-Aid off and learn to forgive. Don’t fight the pain, make room for it.
If you are going through a bad patch of mental health after a breakup, you might want to try these. Be patient with yourself. Love yourself and give time to let things work out on their own.