8 rules for her
#1
Be an optimist. If he’s grunting, he might be busy. Don’t jump to assume that he’s ignoring you.
#2
Be yourself. That’s why he married you in the first place.
#3
You’ll fight about the same issues. A short memory helps.
#4
Do things together. That’s how you’ll have stuff to talk about, aside from the humdrum of office and home and repeat…
#5
Touch. You’ll feel better and so will he.
#6
Don’t compare your marriage to others. You’re both unique.
#7
Give his interests a chance. You might like them too.
#8
Train him well. Put your foot down about things that bug you from Day 1, rather than bringing them up on Day 365.
8 rules for him
#1
Listen. You can grunt, but she might check what you were grunting to, so you need to listen.
#2
Be patient. She’s trying to adjust to your many rules and will eventually remember them.
#3
Don’t bottle up resentment. Let her know you didn’t like something, rather than raking it up in a quarrel about something else.
#4
Watching TV does count as time spent together, but go out too.
#5
Tell her what you want. She can’t read your mind either.
#6
Tell her how your day was.
#7
Let her pursue the interests that made her fall in love with you in the first place.
#8
You don’t need to be strong all the time. She likes it when you ask for her help.
