After 15 years of marriage, actor Aamir Khan and wife Kiran Rao have announced that they are divorcing. The duo released a statement, saying this was not an ending, but the beginning of a new chapter, where they will continue as co-parents and professional partners.
There’s no such thing as an amicable divorce, this we know. The very nature of separation and the breaking what was once a single unit into two hurt, angry individuals does not allow for amicable. We’d like to believe, however, that divorces and break-ups can come with a little side of kindness, a sprinkle of grace.
This is all the more difficult when the people in the split are known faces. Celebrities, sports stars, tech billionaires – they’re all susceptible to grief and resentment, and mostly, they have to do it under intense global scrutiny. Maybe they have no choice but to grin and bear it with grace when they’re so frequently under spotlight, despite all those ‘Please respect our privacy’ notes on their social media.
In this light, it’s rather a nice thing to see a couple separating with what looks deep emotional intelligence and grace, at least outwardly. It’s completely possible that they’re throwing plates at each other behind closed doors, but we’d like to believe there is some degree of continued affection and professional respect.
Working together when your personal bond no longer really exists is tricky. Bill and Melinda Gates, who announced their divorce earlier this year, too, specified that they would continue to work together on their joint foundation. In fact, the Gates foundation just announced they are pledging $2.1 bn to women’s causes, their first such philanthropic effort since the divorce.
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While divorce takes its toll at any age, we do feel that the older you are, the more difficult it can be to make such drastic changes in your personal lives. Aamir Khan is in his mid-50s, Kiran Rao in her late 40s. Maybe it would’ve been easier to ‘stay together for the kids’, but there’s a certain courage to acknowledging that splitting up is just healthier for everyone. Or maybe it’s just easier when you’re all rich and famous!
But our less cynical selves are also pleasantly hopeful that there are couples, non-celebrity ones, who would choose a break-up because it’s the healthiest thing to do, and go through it with as much kindness as possible.
Break-ups are hard at any age and every stage of life. So, we’re hoping Aamir and Kiran, and Bill and Melinda are all being nice to each other and will keep working with their former partners for the betterment of the world. Maybe even get together for brunch and give TED Talks on Working With An Ex.
We’re looking forward to that!