It was during winter of 1998. Back when my chosen attire was a polka dotted red frock, my favorite movie was Gone with the wind and my feminist icon was Lisa Najeeb Halaby. I would spend my days fawning over George Clooney, playing lawn tennis like I was Monica Seles and praying every night that my breasts would burst in full force.
Puberty was something I seriously craved while simultaneously greatly feared. Once it began to arrive, I could quickly see the pros and cons of becoming an adult woman. Cons included: mega acne, wanting to masturbate at all times, and having to shave thick armpit hair. Pros included: the arrival of curves, the appearance of sex hair (the pubic kind), and wanting to masturbate at all times. I was rapidly changing, with new fuzz, zits, and every kind of horniness popping up every single minute. It was all rather exciting and I never knew what fun, hormone-induced experience was waiting for me around the corner.
After my voice dropped and my height soared, there was only one missing piece to the fully developed lady puzzle. I required a visit from my womb’s sister. You know who I’m talking about. The one, the only, the legendary, the pool party ruining, camp weekend complicating, bed sheet permanently staining Aunt Flo. I desperately wanted to meet her! What did she look like? How did she behave? What were her quirks and kinks? Was she going to be a regular visitor or a sporadic one? Was her hair beet red or more of a muted brown? Was she going to be painful and annoying and ruin my white pants (which I owned several pairs of) or was she going to be light and breezy and easy going like a Len song? I NEEDED TO HAVE THESE ANSWERS.
But, alas, all I could do was wait, ‘because she was unpredictable and I had no clue that she was going to knock for the first time smack dab in the middle of my Geography class. I first thought why I was peeing so much. Whenever I moved I peed a little. My teacher, who I am going to refer to as Madame Dinosaur (because that is how I remember thanks to her constant felicitation to us girls on how bad we were on that subject), was rambling on about the torrential rains and effects on earth and as usual I wasn’t paying attention but I was raining myself. As she went on and on about those rain forests my stomach began to twist and turn and ache and burn. It was a slow, fierce rumble that grew as the hours dragged on. I raised my hand and asked Madame Dinosaur to use the dirty toilet our school had about a dozen times.
I went into the filthy toilet, eyed those blood stained sanitary napkins lying at the corner wondering who is hurt so badly and sat on the chiffonier and grabbed hold of my pounding stomach thinking that the damn chocolate cake I ate for breakfast had done it to my bowels again. My mom always said sugar would be the end of me and this was clearly the apocalypse. The sugar had morphed into a ferocious processed beast and it was ripping apart my insides in the name of empty calorie cereal. And the monster wouldn’t face me; it was hiding within the pits of my belly.
The pain persisted and got more and more intense as Madame Dinosaur’s suspicions that I was doing drugs in the washroom became more substantial. Her eyebrow would raise higher and higher as I continued my fight against the count wreaking havoc in my body.
The last time I put in a request “Can I go to toilet” my pal Monica decided to join me. “Good” I thought, “At least I won’t die alone.” I dropped my pants, took a seat and began doing… nothing, as I had the previous fifteen times. At one point Monica heard me moan and asked, concerned; “Are you okay?” I explained to her that I ate Chocolate cake for breakfast and was now on my death bed.
“Or maybe you’re just getting your period,” she said, rationally.
I laughed. Hysterically.
“NO WAY THAT IS NOT POSSIBLE YOU’RE AN IDIOT MONICA” I replied.
Why I was so incredulous I’ll never know. Even though I had been waiting for Aunt Flo to pop in I was certain this wasn’t that specific pop in.
After I wiped the “nothing” that was there, I took a look at said wipe, as most humans do and I was shocked to see that the tissue was red. “RED! IT’S RED. I’M CUT! I’M INJURED! CALL MY MOM” I shrieked in a panic, to which Monica replied “Or maybe you just got your period.” I laughed. Hysterically. “NO WAY THAT IS NOT POSSIBLE YOU’RE AN IDIOT MONICA… unless… holy… shit”. I flushed the toilet, ran out of the stall and kept running until I got to Principal’s room. “Please call my mom, I am dying, I have cancer” I said.
In no time things were arranged, mom came running leaving her college lectures and smiling broadly she said “Remember this as the day you became a woman.” I rolled my eyes. I hated it when she spoke like Archie’s card. She knew it was my menses when she heard my principal explaining on phone I was injured and was having cancer and took out the tampons pushing me to that toilet the “real woman’s period helper”.
“Whisper pads are better, don’t use tampons”, I blurted out Monica’s words to my mom.
She thought those pads were too massive that they could be classified as legit diapers. “It’s vintage” I thought, “like I’m a baby again. I could probably even crap into this thing if I wanted. But no Monica used whisper, I want whisper too”.
I strapped one of those puppies to my smiley face patterned underpants and went on with my day, which proved to be a tad more difficult when you have a feminine care product the size of a frisbee in your pants. Best part was, even though the sanitary napkin was larger than my head, I still managed to put it on wrong and have the blood miss it entirely. I placed it high in the front of my underwear as if my vulva was ten inches above where it actually was. Why I did this I do not know. I think my logic may have been that women bleed up (HUH?) and thus I should prepare for the rising of the red tide. This of course is the opposite of what happens so inevitably I began to leak… a lot… through my underwear, through my pants, and onto a chair.
It was a chair I was sitting on while working at a book fair. Yes. I was on duty in the afternoon, graciously volunteering my time and avoiding lessons about those astronauts and airplanes. I was walking around the fair showing young kids where they could find Goosebumps books and Mills and Boons collections all the while my ass was covered in blood. When I mentioned to Monica that people were looking at me strangely and my book fair sales were down and it must be the cold weather making people act funny, Monica replied “Or maybe it’s that you leaked through your pants,” and she pointed to my butt. I looked behind and screamed in horror.
I yelled at her for not informing me sooner but she promised me she hadn’t noticed it until that very moment. I wrapped a sweater around my waist to mask it and luckily no one questioned the fashion choice. It was the 90’s and the style at that time. In fact, a few of my friends complimented me on my look that day. I found a lot of pals saying things like “Jenny, you’re so pretty today. Did you get a haircut?” to which I would reply “Nope. Nothing different about me… nothing different at all” and then I would coyly wink at Aunt Flo.
I was an adult woman with a secret and I loved every minute of it, minus the leaking and the diaper and the cramps.