Dear Dr Sharmila,
I hope all is well. I am have been masturbating for a long time. Now I am married and have a child too, but my mind still wants to continue in this way. I have less concentration during sex with my wife, and also I feel attracted to other women. I want to have control, but I cannot. Please let me know how to be on the right track. Thank you.
Dr Sharmila Majumdar says:
To stop compulsive masturbation or to stop any bad habit requires the exercise of self-control.
As with running, cycling, or lifting weights, the exercise of self-control requires energy; it needs power. That is called willpower. Unfortunately, most of us do not seem to have that level of willpower. As you probably have learned by now, if the desire to masturbate is higher than the level of willpower, then you will lose control. If it is too low, you can’t control yourself, and you suddenly feel “will-powerless” against this addiction or any other undesirable habit.
Please remove all the apps from your devices, spend more time with family and friends and try not to be alone.
Please try and help others in need, pray, sleep well, exercise, develop your biggest sex organ, which is the brain.
Indulge in fasting once a week, try to go vegan, forgive yourself and forgive others, try to maintain a journal of your progress.