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If not a counsellor, get a family elder involved as you two have a child. I will not tell you to either work on the marriage or move on as that is a decision you need to make after sitting face to face with your husband and looking at the options ahead. Know that things will get better. This is a rough patch, no doubt, but you will get through it. Keep sharing with close friends and family and keep loved ones by your side. All the best!
Thanks for encouragement. You are absolutely correct but what I fear the most is that the issue will become a huge one if I involve my parents. These days, I have adopted the formulae of keeping quite and not paying too much personal attention to my husband. I guess he has taken me for granted.
I have started my Ph.d work and have diverted all my energy and attention to it. I have started focusing on my career. I feel this might help me
Angela, how are you so sure that he is carrying on an affair? Are you sure it's not a misunderstanding of sorts?
No I am not I have recorded calls where my husband has spoken to her the entire night and ended up having phobe sex. I also have evidence of them spending a night at my flat which is in another location. And when I ask my husband to justify this he fights back and says that he has not touched her at all, though they slept on the same bed and had locked the room.
Talk to your husband about the reason for the affair. He should realise that what he is doing is wrong and if he has any issues with you, he has to talk and sort it out with you. Get some counseling to resolve this issue.
I have tried several times, even talked that female's husband but no avail. The situation has become so hopeless that now I am totally helpless. I really dont have the zeal to work my relation out. I don't want to keep any expectations from y husband or this relation. But at the same time , I cannot walk away as my six years old daughter' s life woukd be drastically affected.
I am totally shattered.
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We have some hit Hindi films where the hero is an adulterer like Sajan Chale Sasural and Maang Bharo Sajna. One thing is common among these films, they are not realistic or in any sense serious representation of marriage or affair. The films are either senseless comedies or they are stories of larger than life selfless women. On the other hand serious movies like Silsila and Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna failed despite the presence of super stars. Is it difficult for us to watch when a film on extra marital relationship gets too real? Did Silsila become even more real with its casting?
My girlfriend dumped me last year for another guy and I had a hard time getting over her. But I was finally able to move on and I am currently in a relationship. But now she wants to get back together with me. I love my current girlfriend but my feelings for her have started to pour in again. What do I do?
My sister's long term boyfriend just dumped her. She is having a hard time coping with it. How should I console her?
How to connect with a married woman?
My husband started cheating on me after we had our second child. We have been married for 7 years. Even after repeated confrontations he hasn't ended the affair with the other woman. I am keen on filing a divorce which my family and friends are advising me against. What should i do now, keeping in mind my kid's future too?
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You think too much!
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