Fighting with addiction

I lost my job and got addicted to smoking cigarettes again. My wife doesn't understand my depression. She is giving me cold shoulder instead of any kind of support because she hates smoking. How should I make her understand that it is just a passing phase and will go as soon as I get my job?


 

Addicted again? Which means you quit once before. And now you're promising to quit as soon as the current problem goes away. And restart when the next problem comes? Dear Ayushman, difficult situations come and go in life, and if this is how you handle stress you're wife is rightly alarmed and upset. Do you seriously expect her to support your smoking habit, and in turn accept your spoilt health and added problems due to that? For a moment stop thinking only about 'your' job and 'your' depression and understand that it affects both of you. You both need to stick together to handle the current crisis. By going back to an unhealthy you once kicked, you're only showing a weak personality. Have more faith in yourself and kick the butt for good.

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How is you smoking helping the situation? Will of get you a job? Maybe try looking at your wife for the emotional comfort required. That's for relationships are for. Helping us get through tough times. Once she see you reaching out to her, the cold shoulder will disappear.

  • Rohini
  • Posted: 27 Aug 2016
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Getting addicted to cigarettes is never a solution. Maybe you should turn to your family amidst such turbulent times. It may be very hard for you to think rationally in these times but I feel you should make it up to your wife and tell her to be a little patient with you.

  • Rihaan
  • Posted: 27 Aug 2016
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