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I personally think it's really difficult to be friends with the opposite sex like one is with girl friend. You can be best friends with a guy if he is gay or you have already had an affair with him and now for you he is another woman. Once I was in animated conversation with a guy married to a friend. In the middle I had this strong desire to touch him so I flicked an imaginary speck from his nose. It's too volatile being friends with the opposite sex be ready to be scathed!
This thing is mostly observed in small towns. In cosmopolitan cities men mostly have women as their close friends and it's quite evident so they try not to hide it. Also, both the genders expect the other gender to be okay about it. You cannot expect the mentality to change overnight. Slowly small town will also adapt to this change. It'll take time but eventually it will.
There are many happily married men and women with good friends of the opposite sex that I know of. It's only when one of the spouses develop an insecurity in their own relationship with their partner that the problem rises. This leads to 'hiding' such friendships, basically to avoid unnecessary misunderstandings and scenes at home. If we are able to maintain a good, loving and mutually respectful relationship with our spouses, friends of opposite sexes poses no problem.
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I want to ask the ladies and gentlemen on this forum if they have been close to a particular friend of the opposite sex before marriage and whether they have managed to maintain the same strong friendship even after they got married or has the intensity dwindled with time?
What do you do when you connect to a person very well while texting, but can hardly feel the connection in person. Is it that the other person responds over texts after thinking but can't respond well because he hardly gets any time to think when he finds you sitting right across? What do you do about the awkward silences that follow?
I've seen most of the Indians having issues with PDA or Public Display of Affection or intimacy, do you have an issue? If so why?
Don't we change all through out life? Every 3-4 years we can't believe what we were 3 years back. We are smarter. Our dreams have changed. etc. If such is life and such is the way in which we change constantly throughout life, is monogamy - the act of holding on to one partner - really logical? *p**p*You were attracted to a person during a point in your life. You spent a lot of time together. You two know everything about each other and you see that you both are headed down different paths. In such a situation, does it make sense to continue with the old relationship or is it wiser to seek out a new partner who you will relate to better? Who will help you grow?
I know this is perhaps not the right forum to discuss gifting ideas but I am at my wits end trying to decide what to get for my girlfriend's birthday! She is someone who prefers personalised gifts and I am someone who has no clue about how to make it special that way! So, gents and ladies, please help me out!
Parents expects their children to go for arrange marriage but without knowing each other how can two people be tied with one another?
How would/did you change your bedroom after marriage?
Why do men shy away from relationship discussions?
You think too much!
Why do men think that helping the wife is shameful or makes them henpecked?
What have I learnt about myself through my spouse!
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