Living in a sexless marriage

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I have been married for 1 year and a half. Ours was an arranged marriage but we dated for a few months before. In the course of time before marriage my husband had initiated sex talks with me and though it had seemed a bit weird at first I had indulged in it later on thinking maybe that’s the way it is supposed to proceed. Back then we had started talking intimately almost every day. After our honeymoon was over and a few months into the marriage however things have changed drastically. He never initiated sex and doesn’t even touch me intimately. Yes, we are playful and yes I have expressed my desires to him so many times but he denies that anything is wrong. He says he likes when I initiated and is not rejecting me but when I try initiating, he just shows that he is being ticklish and somehow postpones making out. We have since then gone on a few outings away from home and even then nothing happened except on our anniversary when again I initiated. We live in a joint family but recently when our folks were away for months I had hoped something would happen but nothing did. His job is stressful but could that be the only reason? I have communicated what I feel about this to him. I break down after a few weeks every time. I hold back at other times. I fail to understand why things have changed so drastically and if this is how things are in the beginning wonder what will happen later on. I told him the last time that maybe I will go to a therapist but he is always in denial mode that there is no need to go as we will have sex someday (like on a vacation or some weekend) but that day doesn’t come. I miss those few times that we did it. I turned to porn a few times but I started to cry and now the very thought of sex is something that I am trying to deviate my mind away from. My husband is great otherwise. A provider- yes, a carer-yes, a playful friend-yes but a passionate lover -i guess that’s too much to ask for. I am not able to discuss this with anyone for the fear of coming across as a failure. I don’t know what to do.

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Posted by Anonymous
Asked on July 13, 2017 10:08 am
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Its Wife she does not like it. In sexless marriage since 2+ years. Frustrated and Angry. Cant understand what to do ?

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Posted by Anonymous (Confessions: 0, Replies: 2)
Replied on December 24, 2017 9:28 am
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Take it in ur hands.. Shake it up.. Pump some energy.. If all does not work out.. well..

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Posted by Tall-man (Confessions: 0, Replies: 2)
Replied on December 23, 2017 12:22 am
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Living in same condition. Can’t what can i do ?

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Posted by Anonymous (Confessions: 0, Replies: 2)
Replied on December 10, 2017 1:33 pm
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Please mail me on rockstar8131@gmail.com

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Posted by Sex expert (Confessions: 0, Replies: 1)
Replied on August 5, 2017 12:30 am
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I feel you should have a open talk with your husband. For all you know he doesn’t understand that you are in pain. have you tried speaking?

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Posted by Anonymous (Confessions: 0, Replies: 1)
Replied on August 3, 2017 11:50 am
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Best way is to speak to a counsellor. A sex counsellor.
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Posted by Anonymous
Replied on August 3, 2017 11:48 am
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I have talked to him many times about this but he just stays in denial or changes the subject. Just like when he falls ill and if someone asks him he says that he is perfectly fine. How can we work on a solution when the spouse fails to acknowledge that there is a problem to begin with?
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Posted by Anonymous
Replied on July 31, 2017 1:21 am
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Talk to your husband. Every marriage requires a bit of effort so don’t give up.
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Posted by Anonymous
Replied on July 24, 2017 11:31 am
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I am sorry for your situation. There could be some unhappy explanations but you can either let things be or dig deep knowing that the answers may not be pleasant. He could be having an affair, or he could be gay or even asexual. Check his phone , or if he’s had girlfriends in the past. Being stuck in a sexless marriage is terrible and you should not accept it as your lot in life.
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Posted by Anonymous
Replied on July 19, 2017 5:53 pm
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You can seek professional counselling. I tried counselling for a relationship crisis once, it helps a lot!
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Posted by Anonymous
Replied on July 19, 2017 4:01 am
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There's something up with him. It can be a psychological reason where something has happened and he's too scared to share it with you as you might get offended. And to fill the voids of sexlessness he's being extra careful with other dimensions of the marriage. You should read on the web and try to see his signs which can help you to understand his celibacy. Then talk to him or someone who helps you. Don't give up on him or your marriage.
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Posted by Anonymous (Confessions: 0, Replies: 0)
Replied on July 13, 2017 10:26 am
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