Affair and Cheating

Why would a partner continue to stay in a marriage after their spouse cheated on them?

We swear we would end the marriage if we catch our partner cheating, and yet when it happens most of us don’t. Let’s Discuss Infidelity members think from the perspective of the betrayed spouse and share
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What makes the partner of an unfaithful spouse carry on with the marriage?

Bonobology received a story where the wife chose to stay in the marriage despite knowing of her spouse’s transgressions. Whether she was blindly in love or did not have the option to actually walk out we cannot say; an Indian marriage is almost always about two families marrying rather than two individuals and hence all come together to ‘save’ the marriage if need arises. For women, a lot of other factors come into play, too – social, financial, and emotional.

Related reading: I’ve forgiven my husband for his affair but I still don’t feel at peace

The discussion topic:

“We have always discussed how wrong the adulterer is by breaking marriage vows and that he should have divorced his wife before plunging into an affair. On the flip side, why does the deceived spouse continue to remain in the relationship, and not take the option of divorce?”

Let’s take a look at the answers.

Boosting a false ego

When she still loves him

Financial dependent on the man

Divorce as an option

These responses truly echo the trials and tribulations of a deceived spouse. Suppose one of your closest friends or relatives shares with you an account of their partner’s affair; what would you advise him or her? Will you ask them to opt for a divorce or will you ask them to continue the marriage by sorting it out?

Do share your views in the comments below.

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