Why would a partner continue to stay in a marriage after their spouse cheated on them?

What makes the partner of an unfaithful spouse carry on with the marriage?

Bonobology received a story where the wife chose to stay in the marriage despite knowing of her spouse’s transgressions. Whether she was blindly in love or did not have the option to actually walk out we cannot say; an Indian marriage is almost always about two families marrying rather than two individuals and hence all come together to ‘save’ the marriage if need arises. For women, a lot of other factors come into play, too – social, financial, and emotional.

The discussion topic:

“We have always discussed how wrong the adulterer is by breaking marriage vows and that he should have divorced his wife before plunging into an affair. On the flip side, why does the deceived spouse continue to remain in the relationship, and not take the option of divorce?”

Related reading: I’ve forgiven my husband for his affair but I still don’t feel at peace

Let’s take a look at the answers.

Boosting a false ego

When she still loves him

Financial dependent on the man

Divorce as an option

These responses truly echo the trials and tribulations of a deceived spouse. Suppose one of your closest friends or relatives shares with you an account of their partner’s affair; what would you advise him or her? Will you ask them to opt for a divorce or will you ask them to continue the marriage by sorting it out?

Do share your views in the comments below.

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Readers Comments On “Why would a partner continue to stay in a marriage after their spouse cheated on them?”

  1. The most stupid comment comes from Neha Pathak who derides the value of sacrifice. The sane comment comes from Aarif Malik.

    I know a distant cousin who in her 30’s had an affair because her husband was in travel for his job. Her husband found out and when confronted my cousin exploded. The case got ugly and went to court. In the divorce trials the judge listened to my cousin who wept in the courtroom because she said that her marriage was broken by her husband constant interference and her personal freedom was destroyed because he wanted to know about his wife’s whereabouts, My cousin also said that if her husband had not found out about her extramarital affair, she would have led a comfortable life with her two kids. Now after divorce she has nowhere to go …. blah, blah…..

    That asshole judge probably was impressed by the show and though he reprimanded my cousin, he ruled that her husband pay 1.3 times the alimony per month,

    My cousin continues this day to keep having affairs at her ex’s money. I sometimes think what is the difference between my cousin and a whore?

    Where am I going wrong?

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