Abuse in a relationship is not ok and women do not understand this. Why do they keep accepting/ignoring abuse? Surabhi Pandey June 8, 2017 Surabhi Pandey June 8, 2017 Abuse in a relationship is not ok and women do not understand this. Why do they keep accepting abuse? 15 repliesSurabhi PandeyJune 7, 2017 15 comments Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:21 am DrSanjeevTrivedi June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am Accepting abuse is born from an art called 'learned helplessness.'*p**p*The most frequently quoted reason to tolerate physical abuse is that there is no support system. I pity the lack of courage and initiative people have to resist abuse. Some of them have accepted this while other victims feel it is the price to pay for the the comforts provided to them by their tormentor. *p**p*Sad.This makes me really sad.*p* Abhijit Gadre June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am Physical abuse is understood by the victim but emotional and verbal abuse or financial abuse in a relationship is difficult to earmark. Any kind of abuse in a relationship must stop and what could be the best way than a proper education of women prior to reaching of that age? This is a huge problem considering the diversity in the society and the nations.*p* modernromeo June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am bang on point! So what does this woman do now? Also there is some learning here for the parents going forward from here right?*p* modernromeo June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am You are very right…many a times it could be for the sake of the children…*p* modernromeo June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am At times the dependency might be very real right? Where the abused is perhaps not capable enough to make money as she has spent all her life tending for children and home? Where will she go? What will she do? *p* TapanMozumdar June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am Number one reason is economic dependence. Self reliant women do not take abuse kindly. Me? think many times before taking and economically liberated women for granted. *p**p*There are cases where economically independent women too face abuse and still don't walk out on the me?. Emotional dependence is one reason for that. Social stigma on the women who walk out, however successful is still there. *p**p*Life is a mixed bag. Why people don't walk out of abusive relationships, even me?, varies widely in the society. *p* Andy June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am There is no one answer to this issue. We cannot say if we solve the x issue it can be solved, there are multiple things, financial independence, burden of the family honor, the fact that she might be a mother and being a mother is not same as being a father , she will do "Anything" for her children, risk factor ( what's the guarantee that next marriage won't be like this ).*p**p*I guess it's a complex problem with no straight answers but if she is financially independent she is in a position to take decisions if need be.*p* Surabhi Pandey June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am Dependency is a crucial factor which cannot be over looked and we gain come back to square one – women literacy, women employability etc etc etc*p* Surabhi Pandey June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am Sad.. indeed*p* Surabhi Pandey June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am I could not agree more. Awareness and personality development – so that the woman can understand and speak against such atrocities – is a must.*p* Ankit June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am This women first needs to pull her life together, stop accepting the current situation as reality, believe it can be changed and start taking corrective steps. Efforts in the right direction to rebuild a life should lead her out of the mess.*p**p*For the parents who are moulding the future of their kids, it is very important that they notice and keep a check on the beliefs they are imparting in them.*p*One should teach the children to not accept whatever happens and have the courage to challenge and change. So many have so often changed their lives around just by the power of their desire. I have done that as well.*p* Ankit June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am Do not disagree with your point but economically independent women have also on a lot of occasions fallen prey to this. Though being independent makes a lot of difference the problem is bigger than just that.*p* Ankit June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am This has a lot to do with the upbringing and the subconscious beliefs people carry. Girls from a very young age are made to believe that marriage/relationship is about compromise, about adapting in adversity. In the Indian society, it is a social stigma for a girl to walk over, the victim is victimised further and finds no support. *p**p*When a women no matter the background carries these backlogs when is at a point where she has to make the decision thinks of all the other implications on her freedom and life thereafter and thus keeps pushing her limits while also encouraging the abuser by being a sponge who sucks up everything. *p* Lekha Menon June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am Lack of courage maybe! Fear is a very internal feeling, you can't question why people are afraid. The inability to walk out of an abusive relationship is based on fear of that person. Another reason is that foolish, eternal hope that one day things will improve. It never does. *p* Rupali Tiwari June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am it's not her fault. it's our fault to make her that way. women are taught to be docile and sweet and to listen to everything her family asks her to do. a girl watches her mother listen to every whim of her father no matter how inconsiderate they are. she watches her mother sacrificing herself for the needs of others and she thinks it's her duty to carry that on. so when she faces abuse, its normal for her. she thinks my mother endured the same. no one teaches a girl when it's time to scream stop. all they ask her to do is endure. you are wrong in thinking that women don't understand. even when they do and they try to ask for help, they are turned down by saying "it happens in a marriage. no one is perfect" *p**p*and in some cases, women consider themselves to be so pure so as to change her man into something good. they think being a little more patient will make her man a little more affectionate towards her. *p**p*its not her fault. its our fault to make her so vulnerable to abuses.*p* Leave a Comment Cancel ReplyYou must be logged in to post a comment. 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